Sharing the Love

First, there is Dave. He’s THE ONE. The subject of ‘Loving the Boy’. My Dave – my ‘one and only’.  But we can share our love, and extend our comfort zone. Next came Zach who, with Gary, suggested forming a loving quartet within which we could enjoy safe sex together, knowing that we could trust the others absolutely not to break that trust and do anything ‘penetrative’ outside the group. Eventually that group grew to nine, each proudly bearing the ‘Tuan Jie’ mark on our backs. ‘Strength through Brotherhood’ and all that stuff. Nine acrobats – a second bond which glued us together.

Two’s into nine doesn’t go and, whilst there were four devoted couples, Richard had no individual partner. That was until ‘CJ’, a new gym instructor at Turkey Creek, came along. Richard found true love with CJ, exited our loving group with our very best wishes, and they did indeed make a perfect couple of gym instructors, eventually heading back to Florida where CJ had come from.

Sharing pretty much everything, including bad haircuts like these guys, having the true love of one guy and the freely-shared love and caring of seven others, makes for a near-perfect existence for a gay guy, especially when the others all share the same love of gym and circus performance.

In the final North American / Canadian tour before the second ‘whammy’ hit us (it will be in the final book, but I’m still struggling to write that!), the cosy eight grew to twelve. Our two great Canadian acrobat friends Alain and Michel joined the troupe for the second time on that tour, and two great wrestling mates from Kentucky joined too – originally as transport drivers, just for the fun of being with us. However, we didn’t let it stop at that because they were great weight trainers too and well capable of taking part in our performances. All twelve were already members of Chad’s Man.Power, again absolutely trustworthy and honest about their (lack of) STDs although we all had the doc test us again, just to be absolutely sure. A case of ‘twelve boys on a bus’ (six double bunks fitted!), six perfect couples, and absolutely no jealousy about sharing and swopping around… until we ran foul of Zach’s enemies for the second time…

But for now, let’s not dwell on that. Leave the bad stuff for later, except maybe to say that we’re all still here! Let’s enjoy the fun of sharing, caring mates:

This is what it is all about. Whether joshing around, sizing your friend up (below) or just chilling (bottom), its the friendship that matters, and the ‘Power of Love’ that binds us together.

Dave and I really have been the most fortunate guys on the planet. Finding each other, living out our dream of acrobatics, finding and sharing the love of so many wonderful like-minded friends… and only two black clouds to cross our paths which, eventually, the combination of our skills and our love would overcome…

  Volume 1 is out now, and Volume 2 is expected around Christmas. As I said earlier, the final Volume is still being written, but I’ll get there eventually with a little help from my friends!

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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4 Responses to Sharing the Love

  1. In some very rare cases I’ve seen this work otherwise I’d be like you are a liar! lol. I have seen it work I just don’t get it… at all lol. But I guess if you get it then you probably have found a way for it to work?… that doesn’t really make sense. For some who agree with it it may work. Yup. I think it depends largely on how you grow up too.

    • tonycavanagh says:

      I respect your view and I agree that it rarely does work this way. OK, so we’re weird. I think that it only works because of the other things we share which matter to us so deeply – mainly our professional sporting activities. It probably also ‘helped’ that Dave, Zach and Gary (and I guess me too) all had some deep emotional ‘lack of confidence’ issues at the outside, which we were able collectively to repair. A combination of trust and ‘The Power of Love’ (sorry to use the book title here yet again, but that’s where it came from) – Zach thinks that this rare but powerful combination – perhaps unique in our group, if you say so – was the one thing able to pull him back from oblivion after he got shot up in Edinburgh UK back in 2003. I certainly feel ‘that certain something’ with these very close friends that I never experience outside our strange ‘coven’… oh well.

      Btw, in a recent post on your site, is the last word (or line) of the poem missing? – or maybe its me that’s missing the point – again!

      • I suppose it isn’t closed off, but left to the interpretation of how you want to end it. I was placing “the” there to mean him but it could mean something specific about him like a characteristic. I picked up that ending wordage (not the exact phrase but the idea) from the song “Promises” by “Nero”

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