Shannon Boh’s excellent blog (bottom right for link!) recently offered the following food for thought:

To be honest, I have a bit of trouble with this! Line 1 – well, OK, can live with that, although I doubt that there are many of us who don’t have some secret that they would prefer to keep to themselves, and maybe stretch the truth a little from time to time. Line 3 makes some sense, but I can think of plenty of instances where I have jumped to the defence of a friend when someone has spoken badly of them or has been misinformed. Line 4 – well, as a (new!) writer, I hope that I have been able to ‘speak’ through the books without offending anyone (and I sure changed a few names, just to be on the safe side) and certainly try to do it in everyday conversation – although it would be nice if the homophobic dad of one of Leo’s friends would maybe consider the effects of what he says, not least on his son. Oh well – maybe 2012 will be better!

It is line 2 that really bothers me. Both Dave and I feel that we have depended upon each other for love and support throughout all our time together, and what is wrong with that? We ‘love’ all our mates in performance too, on whom we most certainly ‘depend’, not only in the physical sense of working together but also for moral support and general encouragement. My son, and Dave’s daughter, definitely depend both upon us and upon their mums, and what is wrong with that? I think all children have such a loving dependence.

So, Mr. Boh, we’re not sure we’re entirely on your team with this one. Not sure where you got it from, but do keep your most excellent blog afloat in 2012!

Love? Depending? What about these?

Bit of a giveaway on that last one, I suppose!

Anyway, a big thank you from Dave and I for the interest shown in this blog: a huge milestone was passed on December 29th in terms of hits (400 a day is typical and we reached 40,000+), modest by some standards but obviously a discerning readership and we appreciate each and every one of you, as well as the comments and the (more extensive) e-mail discussions which we seem to have started (see under ‘About’ for the address – I’ll try and answer every one [eventually!]).

We hope that Christmas brought you everything you desired, however you celebrate it, and that 2012 will prove to be your year, in which you realise whatever dreams and hopes you have. Writing the ‘Living the Dream’ books has certainly done it for me (even though I’m not quite finished!!).


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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