Risk Assessment

Well, it’s over! The guy who lives near Karen and Clare who absolutely hates Leo because of his gay parentage had the largest Mitt Romney poster in town in front of his house. Need I say more… 4 more years of that nice Mr Obama, the one the Brits wanted to win… and then we have to go through it all again! Meanwhile, perhaps it’s still safe for us gay guys to take the risk and be seen together…

Risk assessment has been on my mind. I mentioned last post that Dave and I have the kids at the moment. Leo came to me and said that he, his best friend Chris (also just approaching 11 years) and Chris’s older brother Billy wanted to go dipping in the Clinch River without us. Hmm. (a) its November (but we still do it…) (b) they’re only eleven (but not quite) (c) can’t check with his mum because she’s trucking in Oregon… arrrgh. Consulted Chris and Billy’s dad. Basically, he was kewl. We both trust Billy implicitly to help the younger ones train weights and he’s 100% sensible. Bike trail to our swimming hole basically safe. Leo and Chris undertake not to be stupid. Probably that’s OK, except that Leo was flipping over a burning bonfire last Monday despite dire warnings… of course, he was completely successful, every time…

That’s no excuse. Do Dave or I ‘shadow’ them and say nothing, keeping out of sight unless there is a problem? Deceitful. No, better idea. I call Cody, feral fitness freak friend who inhabits the nearby woods and is always swimming too, to keep an eye on them from a distance. That’s Cody of Chad’s gym, and therefore a totally trusted friend (who cared for Dave and I before we even knew he needed to one time – see ‘Loving the Boy’). That’s also Cody who maintains an (adult) S&M dungeon for profit, and spends hours in there himself with his housemate Adge… Again, hmmm, you might think, but I know that I can trust Cody implicitly to be there if needed and invisible if not.

So Leo (and his great friends) duly “found themselves”. Yes, they got cold (and admitted it); yes, Leo and Chris cycled there and back shirtless (because they wanted to show off – like their Dad and Dave!). But, as the poster left says, you gotta give them a long lead. How boring life would become if no-one ever ‘left port’ for fear of the consequences.

And it wasn’t THAT cold, compared with what Kirill Kalutskikh is doing here – that great Russian tradition of ice swimming. We’ll let Leo get to that one another time…

OK, also on the topic of risk, we need a new knife thrower! We’ve known Randy and Dan more than ten years. First time I met him, he used me as a target (at Cody’s as it happens) and then rewarded me by letting me throw darts into his back. It’s all in the same book. Now that was one weird day, and Dave wasn’t there to hold my hand. Their usual targets, however, are Clare and Karen but, unexpectedly, Randy and Dan announced they want to throw in the towel on performance. To be fair, they are not as fit as we would like, and Randy, in particular, actually missed a blindfolded throw and nicked Clare’s leg a few weeks back. He had never done anything like that before, and I think it bothered them all (Randy, Dan and the girls). You have to have absolute trust and, if that ever goes, however trivial the initial event, you do have to question what you are doing. Of course, the girls want to keep all their stuff in the act, which includes bed of swords (we do that), ladder of swords (we DON’T do that – Dave and I really have a thing about severed toes and have nightmares).. the darts we would do occasionally but we do like our bodies to stay looking good for acrobatic work.

Perhaps one should start with another good read! (Joke – at least, I think it is). Maybe interest the kids… start ’em young! (Definitely joke).











Arrrgh! Enough of this: but we do need to find the perfect replacements for when we put on our shows, and its not going to be easy. So, if you are a knife-throwing duo in our area with tons of experience that we could trust to throw knives at the rest of us, and fancy a shot at swords and other stuff too, leave a comment!

Actually, one more small thought. Perhaps a little ‘role reversal’ is due (see sketch!). That suggestion, surprise surprise, came from Karen and Clare…

Enough. Let’s risk everything with a couple of pictures in our Bonus Boys series. After all, the coast is clear for gay guys to have fun again, now that the election has gone the way it did…

Outdoor weights – yeah!!!

If you want to get ahead, get a hat… a shave and haircut…. and a pair of arms like this:

Tailpiece. As we’re on risk assessment, I know that these are oldies, but let’s just enjoy. Back soon!

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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