Reflecting on the Future

As Dave and I slowly wheeze and cough our way back to normal health, we got to thinking. Thinking about ourselves and our future. After all, this last week or so whilst fighting off the hairy green virus, we’ve had plenty of time for sitting and thinking…


We’re not any more the young gay guys we like to think we are:


Like it or not, we’re getting older. At the moment, we can maybe still do things with our bodies that others would find tough…


…but for how much longer? We’re still chellenging one another with the weights…

built power dude

…and long may that continue. But, the average age of our acrobatic group is now over 30! Arrgh! We haven’t introduced anyone new for years, especially after our beloved Coach Andy left the local High School for pastures new. The present HS coaching team, excellent though they are at traditional US sports, did not keep the ‘acro’ thing which we started over ten years ago going, and young local talent from elsewhere is not easy to find. The Turkey Creek gym where we coach is very strongly artistic gymnastics now…

high bar grit

…rather than partner acro work (as demonstrated here by our famous Kalutskihs):


We’ve never been able to contort our legs the way they do!, and now, age 30… nah!

Our new Romanian friend Ion, theoretically here for one year as a neutron physicist at the lab, has spent every evening and the whole weekend volunteering shifts at the gym so that others could cover for our missing ones whilst we were ill. He’s a brilliant gymnast in his own right


I guess though we need some younger people willing to experiment with more ‘circus’-style stuff:

Angel Scan


Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbBut what of the longer term? More writing? Not more of these, for sure. I feel that I have done gay love, acrobatics, and our misadventures (‘brushes with the bad guys’) sufficiently well in these three volumes to last a lifetime. Maybe I could write about something else. It does seem to come rather easily to me now. Yes, we can coach until we’re old and grey, I suppose, using younger guys to do the demonstrating when we’re no longer able. We kind of had our fill of touring, although we do plan a small one late spring around parts of the US, and Clare and Karen seem to be ‘getting their act together’ to organise that. So we shall definitely be keeping up our training at every possible opportunity…


…yes, we may normally have access to fantastic gym facilities, but wherever you are, as the slogan of the Tesco supermarket chain in the UK has it, “Every Little Helps”! All you ever need is a floor – and an encouraging partner…


…someone to measure up to…


…someone who loves you…


Hey! Maybe, with Dave, the future’s not so bleak after all! There’ll always be a younger generation of guys for the older ones to train…

trainers and trainees

…whatever they’re doing! (Looks like water may be involved in that camp, since two guys are wrapped in towels).

So, maybe it doesn’t do any harm (as we began here) by sitting and thinking…


Whatever devious ways we dream up to make money as we get older, and ensure our pensions (nothing like planing ahead!), we have our fitness, and the means to maintain it, which I know that we shall do just as long as we are able…

locker room 1

The gym and the locker room are definitely our ‘spiritual’ homes, so maybe its a management role in a fitness business that awaits us. We’ll have to see. And certainly, as gay guys with an eye always roving to admire young muscle, that would definitely keep us amused!

nate 09030805


Must stop this for now – Dave’s getting all excited, trawling through the picture archives. Just one final ‘cutie’ for now, guys.


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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