Leo Strikes a Deal


My son Leo, proud both of his developing muscles  and acrobatic skills, has struck a deal. I mentioned that Dave and I, with Leo and Jaymee, were going to spend around six weeks in the UK during the school vacation period. Leo wants to keep up his training, which is no problem since we equipped ourselves with a modest gym over there in the barn of our place Cefn Derwen (Oak Ridge in Welsh). But he wants his best mate Chris to come with us and, after a great deal of earnest discussion between his parents and us, we have agreed. The worry we now have is whether Jaymee (Dave’s daughter) will start to feel left out of things, but we can’t really take on another girl to look after as well. Jaymee obviously fits in well and is no problem at all – she will train with us anyway and she and Leo have a mean line developing in acrobatic work. And Leo treats her with brotherly care – even though they have, in our strange world of two gay dads and two lesbian mums, no blood connection.

There will, hopefully, be plenty of this, too, if the fairly horrible weather in Wales perks up a bit…


So, how to resolve this question of Jaymee not getting her best girl friend along too (even assuming the parents would pay for the ticket). After some thought, I decided to ask Leo how he would feel if Jaymee took a friend along and he didn’t. Was it fair, I asked him to consider? Tricky question, but it got a tricky answer. He said he would have no problem because he’d got the gym and the local lads who use it to chill out with. Jaymee’s less keen on endless weights – she keeps very fit and slim for her acrobatics with apparently little effort, and looks slightly disdainfully on the amount of time ‘us boys’ spend lifting.

Dave and I then talked to Jaymee and, to our surprise, she said she didn’t care. It would keep Leo ‘off her case’, she said, and she asked if she could e-mail a couple of the girls in the local Welsh village which she had met last time. As soon as she made those connections, she proudly announced invitations for parties, trips out to the coast, sleepovers, and goodness knows what else, whilst we would be left at Cefn Derwen with the boys! So, everyone happy, Leo and Chris over the moon, especially Chris who has never before left the States, let alone without the rest of his family. But his parents and us are very close, and we’re all confident he’ll have a great time. Job done, I hope.

We’ll all take some trips to the coast, anyway. It’s only about 35 miles from the house, after all…




…and the mountains (we’ll be surrounded by them)…


Hiking in woodlands too…


…and we can possibly do some stuff at night…


…although if it gets warm enough in Wales to be shirtless at night I shall be surprised. But, if we did get chilled, there’s a sure-fire way to get the blood flowing again…


And there’s always  the large wood-burner to light. And, when the 3 young ones are safely tucked up in their beds, and Dave and I are alone – well, I’ll have my love to keep me warm…


This one also in e-bookI’ve been ‘Loving My Boy’ for 13 years nowCover2 Thumb, and those years could not have been happier, as clicking on these book covers will tell. Our extraordinary good fortune, as gay guys, to able to produce Leo and Jaymee, has added enormously to that happiness, and we are so, so proud of them. And, as I’ve said before, there’s no truth in the myth that ‘gay breeds gay’ – all three of them will be eyeing the opposite sex avidly during their trip!

and, finally...Of course, although the path of true love ran effortlessly smooth, our ‘ordinary’ lives, touring with circuses, didn’t go entirely to plan, leading, ultimately, to a seriously scary showdown and some deeply philosophical revelations which I finally committed to paper when I completed the third book. It may not be the last book, but I think it is the last book about us.

This blog has been about gay love, acrobatics and gymnastics, and some aspects of our daily lives. Of course, we don’t give everything away (Vol 3 will tell you why!), but we hope that readers continue to enjoy the pictures we post which represent those aspects dear to most gay guys – an appreciation of the male body and what it can do. So, to close to today, here are a few more inspirational pictures to get relapsing gym bunnies off their butts and back to the weights!





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About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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