“For Sale, Detached Des. Res. with Sweatroom…”

Long discussion with Dave’s father last night. He will retire at the end of the year and is thinking hard about returning to UK, as we suspected (see previous post). He is sensitive to our situation (Dave and I, Pete and Ivo and all our ties to Oak Ridge), and will not do anything hasty. But it didn’t stop us speculating about his ‘house for sale’ notice – although the ‘Sweat Room’, as son Leo and his mates insist on calling our training cabin at the top of the yard, doesn’t perhaps make a good selling point (unless folks think its a sauna, which sometimes it almost is!).

imagesCAAHJTXMOf course, that’s not quite what we have there. A sauna would have been nice, come to think of it! No, it’s weights, wrestling, a measure of acrobatics limited only by height and distance… in other words, FITNESS. Not quite exclusively MALE fitness, which you might expect from a collection of gay guys alternating with three body-focussed schoolboys – their mums are in there too, often as not. But, from my point of view as one of those gay guys who one-time united with a wonderful lesbian girl called Clare to deliver (ultimately) Leo (see ‘The Power of Love’) it is the male body which always gets our attention… and it is Dave upon whom my greatest love is focused.

We like to be fit – we NEED to be fit – and we like to show off:

on guard

…a combination of muscle (a nice sweaty boy here!)…


…and flexibility…




…and agility…


…it would be nice to be able to do this, too, but there are limits!!!:


Anyway, the developing housing situation in Oak Ridge is certainly giving us pause for thought. How long to we want to continue with coaching gym and an occasional barely-profitable foray into public performance of our acrobatics and modest ‘fakir’ skills? As we get older we do, indeed, find the physical exertion tougher…


Should Dave and I return to our (own) home in the UK? What would we do there to earn our living? And what about the ‘family’? (That’s a big question – the last thing we want to do is to see less of our offspring, and our large group of athletic friends). We have built ourselves a gym there – although it is a bit basic – more a ‘Sweat Barn’ than a ‘Sweat Room’ – but there’s enough there to keep us in shape:


Swimming facilities nearby (!) although sometimes a bit colder than Tennessee…

tumblr_mpud6boiNR1sptdr1o1_1280We have to be realistic. Life for the last 13 years has been all about ‘boys having fun’ – but we boys are 30 now, and it is time for some serious reflection about the future! Dave’s dad says we have at least until the early part of next year before he’ll do anything.

As I’ve said before, I would like to earn a living as a writer, but I don’t think that’s going to happen in a market which is probably limited to the LGBT fraternity, and further limited to those who like to read about boys getting sweaty. But who knows? Special OfferI’ll re-post the ‘special offer’ ad and keep my fingers crossed: and I do have an idea for a new book based upon the life and times of the Native American guy ‘Three Rivers’ who has joined our community for a while but is thinking of moving on. This would make use of what he’s told us about his history (not much) but then (obviously) move into the realm of fiction: some ideas have formed in my head about what might happen to him, which is a bit weird considering he’s a real person, but you have to get your inspiration from somewhere… and I’ve made pretty full use of all the guys around here and our adventures in creating ‘Living the Dream’ – I guess that’s what writers are supposed to do, after all!

Now let’s enjoy a few more male-oriented pictures, starting with some very wet boys. I did think that this was indeed a ‘sweat room’ when I first came across the picture but I’m sure now  that it’s a shower. Whatever: they are enjoying themselves:

really wet boys

I think the next two are enjoying themselves, although from their faces you can’t really be sure:

wrestle pose 2

One thing’s for sure. Whatever we do decide to do, Dave and I will do it together. Like always. G’night.


Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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