Arms and the Man


The ‘strongarm’ tactics I mentioned recently, planned on behalf of ‘3R’ (our Native American friend ‘Three Rivers’), have paid off handsomely. Chad was determined to get him ‘his rights’ ahead of his planned departure to seek adventure somewhere away from Oak Ridge. He’s been glad of the work at the carwash and cleaning up in Chad’s gym, where he can be his shirtless and barefoot self, and he’s enormously grateful for the friendship he has received and the boost to his self-confidence about his being gay. But he knows there a wider world out there than washing cars…

We involved our ‘tame’ lawyer Carl, a skeleton of a man but with an immense grasp of the law. Chad, a mightily muscled man anyway, took along two more ‘heavies’ from the gym with them, the rather thuggish-looking Cody and his current housemate Adge to back up Carl, plus a very reluctant ‘3R’, packed into his car and back to his former home on the reservation in NC before he was summarily ejected after being found in bed with a younger but eagerly-consenting boy from his foster family…

Complex story, but we were determined to recover his identity documents and his rights to the Federal payments made to Native Americans (except when, as now, the government is shut down!!). 3R stayed in the car most of the time, whilst Carl, surrounded by his ‘heavies’, made their intentions clear to the lady of the house.

5093_0x0Definitely strong-arm tactics, then, but definitely successful! Chad wanted things over and done with quickly, before the Chief of the village and any of their own side could show up as ‘reinforcements’. In fact, they would never have had the chance. The lady caved in at once, admitting that they had been receiving the money due to ‘3R’ all along, without his knowledge. She also admitted that she had kept all his documents, our fear being that she might have thrown the whole lot out which would have left ‘3R’ in a very difficult situation if trying to prove his identity. Certainly if applying for a passport, which is by now one of his ambitions. He’s not sure where he wants to go, or why, but he values the freedom.

Chad wanted to press for the return of the money effectively ‘stolen’ from ‘3R’ but after Carl talked with ‘3R’ it was decided not to press that, since there would be resistance, probably no money available to pay it back anyway, and a longer period for other members of the tribe to become involved and to make things more difficult. In fact, when the lady realised that ‘3R’ was actually here, she almost pushed everything into Carl’s hands to get them away as quickly as possible from her son. A few of his personal things were handed over too.

4990The younger boy was there. Chad told me later that he saw a look of longing pass between him and ‘3R’, and we suspect that the boy is having a bad time still, months after ‘3R’ left. But, as we mused over beers later, we can’t solve everyone’s problems.

It is very uncharacteristic for our ‘gym rats’ community to play the ‘heavy’ strong-arm card, but in this case we agreed that it was the right thing, and ‘3R’seems over the moon. Even more sexually energised with his two gay housemates than usual that evening, apparently!

Special OfferIn our past, strong-arm tactics have been used against us, especially towards the end in Against All Odds. But as you can obviously realise, we are still here! I won’t dwell on all that – you can read it for yourselves.

The rest of this post, characteristically decorated with inspirational fitness pictures, is however dedicated to STRONG ARMS:





(OK, he’s more exercising his back and shoulders, but the arms are impressive. Nice and sweaty, too – working out hard!). Gymnast arms next:


Using the elastic strands:




And, finally, putting arms to good use…



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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