No, No, Nicolosi!

That’s Joseph Nicolosi, a Californian phsychologist who specialises in ‘turning gays straight’… We watched the wonderful Stephen Fry prog about gay persecution on BBC i-player and I was also sent the review of the programme in the UK listings magazine Radio Times written by Hugo Rifkind. The appalling Uganda law (about to be enacted) which will punish homosexuality by execution – gosh, even Russia doesn’t go that far – interview with Milonev, responsible for that country’s anti ‘gay-propaganda’ laws… Fry made mincemeat of them all. Fry, by the way, is a self-declared celebate gay with a history of depression, and making some parts of the programme affected him really badly, driving him close to a second suicide attempt.


I want to quote the ending of Rifkind’s excellent review:

‘No wonder you find trauma in so many gay lives. What do you bloody expect? To grow up in a world where you’re the exception if you aren’t hated, beaten, and threatened with execution; where reputable debate, still, centres on whether you were born depraved or merely made it; where elected politicians start screaming about sadistic orgies and seeing conspiracies to corrupt children whenever you so much as meet in a small group to talk… I mean, I’d be traumatised. Wouldn’t you?’

Thank goodness that our story has been somewhat more cheerful (at least in respect of the gay persecution thing):

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

‘You could easily pass as a gay man!’, said Fry mischievously to Nicolosi during their interview. All Nicolosi could do by way of response was to blink nervously at him. No doubt he would also support the forced rape of young lesbian girls in much of Africa as a legitimate ‘cure’.

A couple of pictures for Nicolosi and the others, then:



Maybe guys sleeping together is too much and will send these hysterical homophobes into a blue fit. OK then, can two guys perhaps just be ‘friends’? Is that OK? …



Is the thought of two guys comparing each other’s physique at the gym too much, even, for these characters? Maybe even those guys require ‘correctional therapy’:



Wait: a whole bunch of guys showing off their muscle to each other in a gym… surely that can’t be right…



Arrgh! Suitable cases for treatment by Nicolosi, Milonev and the rest. At least he is not obsessed by ‘bums’ like the Ugandan guy was in Fry’s documentary.

Wait – Milonev – what about the muscle boys who strut their stuff in the Moscow street workouts? You cool with them? Just one or two might – just – be gay you know.

Gentlemen, 7% of the world’s population are homosexual. You’re gonna have to live with that – we do…


We don’t tell you how to run your lives, so just GET OFF OUR CASE!

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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