House (and Training Cabin) For Sale

house_for_saleWell, the big decision has been made. Dave’s dad plans to return to UK following his retirement from ORNL in a few weeks, and needs to sell the house here in TN in order to purchase another in UK. Likely, he will move somewhere up in the English Lake District, near Dave’s mum (his ex-wife), with whom he has had a partial reconciliation following what (nearly) happened to Dave and the rest of us at the end of our adventures (see Against All Odds).

Pete (Dave’s brother) and his long-term partner Ivo will definitely stay here, with senior jobs in the local gymnastics centre (and, in Ivo’s case, a second job too!). They could afford to buy property themselves (they just haven’t, whilst we had this house to rattle around in and the wonderful training cabin at the top of the yard). Dave and I, on the other hand, have invested our hard-gotten gains in property in Wales (UK) – although we have already had several offers of accommodation here if we elected to stay.

So a realtor (as they call them here) as been instructed to test the market. It’s not a good time here in Oak Ridge because they are going to make a lot of people redundant from the main employer, the government lab, based upon reduced funding for next year – so we can expect a lot of property to hit the market and few buyers. So we shall watch what happens.

Special OfferDave and I, and our wonderful kids Leo and Jaymee, all have the right to live (and work) in both US and UK. Our inclination, at the moment, is both to enjoy our investment in UK for extended stays and to commute back to TN, also for extended stays, provided we can finance ourselves somehow, both to maintain ourselves and also afford the cheapest air fares back and forth across the Atlantic on a regular basis. Selling more books to you guys would help (a bit!) – see right!

We’re still rehearsing the arguments for and against leaving here after 13 years, and I’ll share some of them in future posts. It has been an amazing time, with a fantastic group of mates for workouts, performing and so forth, and it will be real hard to face up to a change. But, as one dear friend continuously puts it: ‘Today is the first day of the rest of your lives’ – do we want to stick in one rut for ever?

One rut we are definitely ‘stuck’ in is fitness, and (as gay guys) the admiration of great bodies built with dedication  and ‘true grit’, so let’s share:






abs wow

a bit red



bicep curls 5a

by the mat


I like black and white. It often shows up a great body more clearly than a colour picture. In fact, I like things to be ‘black and white’, and the decisions we have to make are anything but. Our options seem more like a murky grey at the moment, but we’re sure there’s a right answer to this: we just have to find it.

A couple more black and white images to finish on, then:


lean and mean

…and, for the last one, a reminder of hot summer sun…


Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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