‘Not-so-Black’ Friday…

‘Black Friday’ – the USA equivalent of UK’s ‘Boxing Day’ when everyone goes mad shopping for bargains. However, we had a different sale in mind.

We had a major extended-family conference about the house we currently live in and which Dave and Pete’s dad is selling, after the orgy of turkey-eating which Clare (Leo’s mum) organised. Mr Anderton has only had two people to view the house, and they both regarded it as ‘too expensive’. There’s a lot of property for sale here because the local national lab is shedding staff.

I’ve told in previous posts of our offspring’s devious attempts to retain access to the training cabin (weights, wrestling, acrobatics) which Pete originally set up nearly 14 years ago. Well, I never thought anything would come of it, but, amazingly, Leo’s mum and Jaymee’s mum, Clare and Karen, are seriously interested in upgrading to this house and selling their own! They were regularly invitees to the cabin even before Dave and I were! The advantages would be that Pete and Ivo could continue living here either by paying rent or having a share of the purchase cost; the kids get their wish (they spend half their time here anyway, with us, and share a room although that would have to change as they get older to a room each, probably meaning some mods if we stay on here ourselves); we (Dave and I) could keep our share too [and still venture back and forth to Wales UK to our own property] if we either paid rent or put up a lump sum…

Of course, it isn’t quite that simple! Clare and Karen would have to find a buyer willing to pay the price for their (smaller) place they need in order to have enough cash (with the add-ins) to buy this one. And Dave’s dad would need to agree not to sell it to anyone else whilst they try to do that. In principle, though, everyone is on board with this scheme and the kids are over the moon, because they think it was their idea. And, to be fair, it was. And they’ll also get to travel to Wales in school breaks, which they very much want to do, along with Leo’s mate Chris, to spend time with their UK friends Ollie and his sister…

Cover1 ThumbHow did all this come about? Cover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbWell, it is all explained in these books: discovering our ‘gayness’, discovering our love of acrobatic performance, being propositioned by Clare and Karen and (eventually) agreeing to do what they asked… the joy of two gay guys having kids… and the misadventures which accompanied our assorted tours…

So, we are where we are. Fingers crossed that the ‘Black Friday’ family debate will lead to the result we all hope for.

And meanwhile – on with the show which regular readers have come to expect: appreciating the fit young male:

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Of course, they frequently ‘appreciate’ themselves, knowing they’re in good shape and freely posting their pix for our enjoyment:


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(…now there’s a sweaty boy – he’s obviously been working out on his fitness…). And so has this dude:


Another definite gym success:


Outdoor poses are good too, when you’ve got what it takes:

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A few do it just to look good on the beach or at the pool:


..but, with development like that, you can tell he’s a regular gym bunny…

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…just can’t get enough of it…


And then, when you’ve built up a bit of strength, some cleverer stuff becomes possible…


…and then, when there’s a whole gang of you sharing the same vision – well, what can I say?


It’s that ‘same vision’ that led to such a successful potential outcome of the ‘family’ conference yesterday. We ALL want to keep our wonderful training cabin, in addition to access to Chad’s private gym. If Clare and Karen can now sell their house (which should be easier, as it is at a lower end of the market)…if only…

Of course, there’s the bigger decision for Dave and I yet to be made. How much to relocate ourselves to our own home, Cefn Derwen? This was our investment in a place my parents regularly used for vacations and took me to when I was younger, and a place where it was necessary for our friends Zach and Gary to ‘hide out’ for a while [see ‘Against All Odds, above’], in Wales UK, which we hardly ever see. The kids love it there too, and, yep, we’ve installed a gym! We have great friends there, too, but not in the ‘intimate’ way we share our love around in our Tuan Jie gay association here. And those are some bonds which served us well in the stories I have related, and which we do not intend to break… And what should be our income stream if we did that? The house generates some income already (holiday letting) but obviously cannot do that if we are there…

…but at least, fingers crossed, we are all sleeping slightly more soundly in our beds, just dreaming that this all comes off…



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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