Home Alone (sort of…)

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It is suddenly quiet here in Cefn Derwen in Wales. The children have left and, with their mums, should have landed in Chicago about now en route to Tennessee and the re-start of school. Colin and Roger, my old gym mates from Oxford, collected them, plus Colin’s son Ollie, who at the end had to prized apart from my son Leo with a guarantee of a long Skype call from Leo and mate Chris tomorrow – their three-way sporting friendship seems to be surviving the width of the Atlantic once again. Last night the kids and mums spent with my parents, who will be down here in a few days for a break if the weather improves, ‘but not otherwise’ says dad grumpily. Well, the weather has been truly awful. There was a plan to do some of this, despite it being January…

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…but NO WAY – gales, unprecedented tidal surges, destruction of seafront roads, people swept out to sea and lost… kind of put us off sea bathing!

So, for the next ten days or so, before we too return to Tennessee via Oxford, it is likely to be just Dave and I. It’s kind of rare to get time just to ourselves…


…although we will be sharing gym time with numerous Young Farmers and quality time with Tom and Iestyn, our gay friends. We may also find some time to try a few new performance moves that our ageing bodies can still achieve…


…though probably not that!

We do need to sharpen up on acrobatics a little…

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…because we have an introduction to a high-performance acrobatic gymnastics coach at a centre near Bristol: she seems quite keen to find out what we know and what we might contribute if we were here for longer periods, so that’s one trip out when our 17yo truck is fixed (busted alternator, damn!).

Personally, I am still feeling weaker than I ought to after being ill for a while, and Dave is supervising my weights regime by way of remediation: I certainly need it…


Dave said I was wheezing like an old granddad in bed last night, so perhaps I ought to see a doc again, just to be sure. Physically we want to remain a well-matched pair, like these guys, since in most of our routines we can take either position (supporter or balancer, etc):


Dave says he has ‘plans’ for my rehab, although I hope that kicking me in the stomach when I’m lifting weights isn’t part of it…

interaction - interesting!

Gentle but increasing weights then…


Nothing too extreme…


…and I certainly don’t feel ready yet to resume suspending Dave or myself from my teeth, up in the air, which has been part of show for years.

The best bit, of course, comes after…


Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbThanks for everything, Dave… just as it has always been since we met back in 2000, at the start of ‘Loving the Boy’…he’s ‘the boy’ all right, and more on our acrobatic adventures and falling in love can be found in these modest volumes (click on covers…).

Right. I think we deserve a few more inspirational pictures (or, at least, I do), so here goes:


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Add a touch of sweat for authenticity..

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…and then take a cool shower…


And at the end of the day, just the two of us… home alone!


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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