Nursing our 17-Year-Old, and other updates…

160That’s our truck, which came with the place when we bought Cefn Derwen here in Wales. Actually, it consists of a not-bad diesel engine around which the rest of the truck is falling apart. Since we’ve had it we’ve had leaking fuel lines, a recon gearbox, trouble with the four-wheel drive (twice), the tailgate falling off, screen blower packing up, a leaking radiator and now (latest) having a new alternator.

We only use it a little and when we’re here, but it is a lifeline and anyone staying in the house or working in the barn can use it as well. We’re going to have to do something before long – need reliability!

Our 12 year olds are now back in school, having arrived two days late following the epic freeze-up in North America. Dave and I still here for another week – my parents coming for the weekend and Dave’s dad apparently set to stay in Cumbria for a while, patching up relations with his ex-wife and considering where to settle as his term in the US National Lab in Oak Ridge is now ended.

And that’s nearly the end of the news: our new friend Toby – chunky, built, hotel worker, came back here yesterday for another workout and to try his hand at acrobatics, which he wasn’t very good at! He looks rather like this guy…


He could hold a handstand, but in an awful shape, so we worked on that too until he better resembled this (reasonably) good example:


What Toby does have in spades is the strength to hold positions like this:


The one thing he really does like (and has just discovered!) is his wrestling: he had a submission bout with each of us and then, as one or two other guys decided to show up, we made ourselves a little more ‘decent’ and left him squaring up to Neil, the local farm boy who looks after everything for us. Next thing he’ll be in a ring, if we had one…

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…reinforced by a great deal of hard work with the weights. We like this vintage picture, especially for the vintage ‘exercise bike’ in the background!…


In ‘other news’, we had our trip to the acrobatic gymnastics centre about 90 miles away from here. British clubs are absolutely focussed on competition (national, international, world championships) and are up there high on the leader board. Our style is more recreational and ‘showbiz’ and we would have much to learn to get to the coaching standards needed to train world champions. However, they made us very welcome, and were encouraging so, if we exile ourselves in UK more often, there’s a possible opening to earn a few pounds.

Our routines tend to be built up from some silly balance tricks…


…and strength moves…


…plus more visual balance techniques…


…building in some flexibility (demonstrated here by the Charkhov brothers)…

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…getting into one-arm and counter-balance stuff…


…really, the possibilities are endless and it is all great fun to do as well as to watch… work on strength and flexibility and the rest will come…


How did we get into all this stuff? Well, ‘read all about it’, as they say…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

Now let’s continue with a selection of our usual ‘inspirational’ pictures for guys needing to improve their probably already rather spectacular physiques!




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OK, enough for now! Off this evening for dinner with our friends (gay couple like us) Tom and Iestyn… what might follow? Who knows, but we’ll have a great evening.

You have one too. And I hope that you can share it with one you love…


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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1 Response to Nursing our 17-Year-Old, and other updates…

  1. Pingback: Ar ei Ben ei Hun yn y Ty (Home Alone!) | Tony Cavanagh

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