A Difficult Decision

Dave and I have just taken the difficult decision to turn down a circus tour. Pete and Ivo were definitely out of it anyway – managing the coaching at the gymnastics centre is now a full-time occupation. And Dave and I have had a lot of time off from there, and plan for more (visits to UK etc). So, in fairness to other coaches (and to protect that income stream!) we decided to ‘bow out’ of the tour – despite the lure of “the roar of the greasepaint and the smell of the crowd”… and stay with the gym coaching:


Ethan and Jack – ace balancers – Zach (ace tumbler and balancer) and Gary (acrobatic base and martial artist) will go, along with the girls (fire performers and endurance too, along with everyone in that group). You can meet these people in the books – see end of this post! The tour is going to start in Canada, sweep down the US East Coast, across the south and then into Mexico. However, Zach and Gary MOST DEFINITELY will not go to Mexico – Against All Odds explains why – and so the group will leave at that point and return home. During the school vacation, Dave and I (clearly looking after the kids whilst their mums are away) will join a few performances, with the kids in there as well. The tour will be conveniently close in the summer.

Otherwise, Dave and I will keep in acrobatic training and spend plenty time working on our flexibility and muscles as well!

saves holding the balance



We still enjoying working up a good sweat alongside like-minded guys!

To be honest, we’ve had enough of roughing it in our tour bus for months on end. Perhaps the others are more resilient to living out of backpacks – Ethan and Jack are a little younger, and the girls (who own the converted bus!) haven’t done it for a while. In ‘real life’, Karen is a part-time trucker anyway, so maybe it is in her bones.

Maybe we’ve grown up, and learned to recognise the security of a regular income.

Maybe we’re just growing old, and enjoy being with the kids…

But anyway, we can still try to keep looking young…




While the others are working hard on their two shows a day, we can have fun…


…combine that with enjoying the hoped-for sun…


Maybe even combine acrobatics and training:


Don’t get caught up in your sound system!

Just show off:


Or we can just go down to the river, chill out, and sit and think!


And then at night, when the six of them are crowded into a draughty bus, we’ve still got or own bed… and our love to keep us warm:


Did we make the better choice?

And who has the better deal?

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and now… as a reward for reading this far (and hopefully deciding to give a book or three a try (e-books available too), a couple of…






Bonus Boys!

chunky monkey



and finally (for today)…



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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