Regime Change

Unlike events in other parts of the world, the regime change in Oak Ridge TN has gone smoothly and passed unnoticed by most people! Dave’s dad has returned to the UK, ‘our’ girls Clare and Karen now own the house, and our kids now live here 100% instead of about 50%. The girls have taken over the former ‘Mr Anderton mini-suite’, there’s some extra furniture to fall over in the living area because Dave’s dad didn’t want to ship stuff back to UK and we’re gonna have a clearout, but other wise it is business as usual. We continue to pay our rent to Dave’s dad as part of the deal, as do Pete and Ivo.

The girls have used our training cabin regularly anyway since before I came on the scene back in 2000, they are just in there more often now. Son Leo’s in heaven now he can go there 24/7 if he wants. He has his sludge-coloured room in the basement and sleep-overs with his mates have started. And, perhaps because we appear to be a ‘more normal’ home where his mother and father both live, the homophobic father of ‘Ryan’ has given in and that boy spends time with Leo in the cabin too as well as negotiating a sleep-over for the coming weekend. He’s a pretty neat balancer, and Leo is tutoring him. So with that, plus his other best mate Chris and his older bodybuilding brother Billy, it’s like the new generation of fitness freaks is taking over the baton from us! Not to mention Dave’s daughter Jaymee as well – she’s a great balancer too.

So, we’re all enjoying ourselves enormously. We just don’t have one of these (pool, that is, not boyfriend!!):


…however, the Clinch River is not far away and serves well enough, with encouragement from Cody who goes there every day of he year.


In fact, we rarely use cozzies when we’re there because it is a private place. The kids have grown up used to being half naked around their houses most of the time anyway, and we also train weights and acrobatics that way, so ‘no sweat’ about dress codes under the new regime!


Just got to be a little careful when Ryan is with us, else his dad will think we’re turning him gay and there’ll be some sort of bad reaction, without any doubt.

Otherwise, then, pretty much business as usual. Leo has a big surprise coming at Easter but I’ll save that for now. Weights, acro and gym, the occasional show before the rest of the gang go off on a bigger tour which we shall join (with Jaymee and Leo0 very briefly at the start of the summer vacation before heading back over to UK). Some explanation of our gay lifestyle, wanderings and adventures Cover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbCover 3 Thumbcan be found in these three modest efforts of mine: some have found them to be a good read! e-books available. Links available if you click the covers.

Now let’s enjoy sharing some more pictures on our regular ‘fitness’ themes:






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Whatever you do, enjoy what you’re doing! Bye for now…


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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