18,500 Days

18,500 days: that’s what I’ve got left, apparently. It’s a big number, but it doesn’t seem large enough! If we all live to 82 years – the average – that’s 52 years left. Now that seems a BIG number.

This is all prompted by an article I read. Someone with 12,000 days to live wrote it. And she was clearly disturbed that the number wasn’t big enough!

What should I cram into my 18,500 days? More of the same… gym, acrobatics, coaching, occasional performance… ad nauseam? Or is this the time to do something entirely different, whilst there still are some days left? And – who knows – it could be shorter. Much shorter…

Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbLooking back, we crammed one hell of a lot into about 1000 days covered by these books (although the third one does jump forward a few years right near the end). Finding love (gay) exploring American life instead of English, developing acrobatic skills with a great team, becoming a gay dad, having fun, having some not-such-fun when we crossed some really nasty people – all in those 1000 days…

We’re stagnating. That’s why Dave and I have been bothering ourselves about whether to spend more time (or even all our time) at our place in UK (in Wales). A stupid article has started the debate again. Should we…? Shouldn’t we…? But, above all, our kids… We may be a gay couple, and their mothers another one, but we feel like one big family now and the kids have brought us so much joy. And they’re so good at doing what we love to do – acrobatics and stuff… no way are we going to choose a path where we hardly ever get to see them.

Enough. Let’s cheer ourselves up with some inspirational pictures, as per usual. Only 18,499 days left…


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power boi 2

OK, that’s a dozen pictures celebrating what we love to see (and love to train for)…so, if we post every other day, that’s… erm.. 110,994 pictures to go before we’re done. Not bad, huh?

Maybe I should just get ahead of the game with a couple more… just in case…

proud posers

ready for training

That’s a good way to start the training… and a good place to stop, for now. 110,992 still to come…

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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