Garden Party

Sunday afternoon was warm enough – just – to decide to spend the afternoon in the yard having friends round and having fun…

stern face

I said FUN, dude!!

…we decided to show our ‘family’ face to the homophobic parents of Leo’s friend ‘Ryan’, with the girls around as well as us, and with Steve and his wife (parents of Leo’s great friend Chris and his bodybuilder brother Billy): everyone accepted, and all the guys (except homophobic dad) quickly followed the boys’ lead and had their shirts off.


Great to feel the sun on our backs (as opposed to using Carlos’s sunbed!)…

sun on backs

… and the three young boys were quickly into Speedos and barefoot, wrestling around, before being joined by Jaymee to show off their acrobatic prowess. Pete and Ivo arrived back from the gymnastics centre and the four of us showed off a bit of acrobatics as well before Pete challenged Steve to a wrestle, and general mayhem reigned for a while! Billy showed off his championship-standard muscles too – normally he’s very reserved, but the mood was excellent…


Overall, things are looking great for ‘Ryan’ (I still feel a need to disguise him because of his dad’s history) – he shows great promise gymnastically and he gets on great with Leo and Chris: the three of them disappeared into the cabin for a while to use the weights – I suspect they may have gotten naked (as we often do when private) but didn’t dare to draw Ryan’s dad’s attention to the cabin at that point!

Everyone quaffing wine and enjoying the spring sun, and Steve and his wife doing a brilliant job of being perfectly normal in the presence of all the gay people : I hope and pray that the business with Ryan’s dad is now behind us. He understands full well Leo’s parentage, but the fact that Leo’s dad (me) and mum (Clare) live “together” under the same roof seems to have squared his mental circle and perhaps, after all, we won’t “turn his son gay” by letting him spend time with my seriously straight son… especially at Easter when young Ollie from Oxford UK is coming here as well (they still don’t know about that…)

OMG – isn’t life complicated!!

All we needed on Sunday afternoon really was some sand, and a pool…


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…aside from their obvious attractions in their own right, they make a good setting for acrobatics as well:


…as well as for just showing off the work you did in the gym with the weights…


But the best we are likely to do for a pool in the short term is one of these:


At the end of the afternoon, I decided, without asking advice from anyone else, that it was time to ‘pop the question’ to homophobic dad once and for all. ‘You’ve seen us here with our friends, gay and straight people, Mr xxxxxxx: do you think you can trust us all now to take proper care of ‘Ryan’ when he’s here, so he can spend time with Leo and Chris and enjoy himself?’

I think I must have been fuelled by too much alcohol, because that question, now I type it and read it back, could have screwed up the entire enterprise. It didn’t come quite out of the blue like that, though. Thank God, he took my hand, and said ‘Yes, Tony, I think we can.’

Whew. The wine must have worked for him, too. We just hadn’t better get the paints out for a while, then…


Otherwise, it could be ‘daggers drawn’, again!!…

daggers drawn

I love that picture. That blade is BLOODY HUGE and I’d quite like to see what the defence against a strike from it is! Not sure what martial art those guys are demonstrating either… if anyone knows, please comment. Weird hair or hat probably obligatory.

We have ‘bed of swords’ in the act, but nothing quite like that! “Want one!” as the kids around here seem to say all the time when they like what they see.

Right then. I’ll save the obligatory book adverts for the end, as I’m in a really good mood today, and feel so happy for Ryan, who has only recently been allowed anywhere near Leo out of school hours.

Some additional celebrations of great manhood then:






Yeah: the sun, the great outdoors. That’s what we have to look forward too (unless you are exiled in the Southern Hemisphere!). I really do feel SO irrationally cheerful today !!!

power boi

And I’d be even MORE cheerful if you joined us in the sun, working on our tans, and having a good read about discovering gay love, the joy of working on acrobatics, and some adventures too…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

There are e-version too: I’m sure you won’t get sand or water in your Kindle…












About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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