‘Make a Man of Him…’

tumblr_n32keyQIfE1rg6wzxo1_500My pleasure at the success of our ‘garden party’ in getting ‘homophobe dad’ to share the fun that Leo, Chris and the rest of the youngsters have, is in no way affected by the discovery today that it was actually my good friend Steve and his wife who finally convinced him that his son would be safe with us! I did see them talking together a lot on Sunday afternoon, and it turns out that what convinced the guy was Steve recalling that he had allowed us to take his 12yo Chris across to the UK last summer and Chris had returned, happy, as ‘straight’ as ever, and most certainly hadn’t been pressured to ‘convert’ to gay (as if you could…).

So I think that Ryan is now free to come here whenever he wants, and the dad called more or less to say that this afternoon. He also seems to accept that Leo is not gay just because his dad and his mum are.

Whew. He’s not after us for alleged child molesting after all!!

Why members of the gay community are automatically assumed to be out to ‘convert’ gullible youngsters is beyond me. Love our male friends, yes, but perfectly capable of separating sexuality from social contact!


Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbIf you do want to find out more about our, erm, love lives, then these are where you can find it – especially the first two. How I met Dave, how I discovered I was gay, the exploration which followed (and not just Dave…) and so forth. Click on the covers for information, and e-books are also available. But, as far as all youngsters are concerned, including our own, that area is a definite ‘no-no’.

So. We are now all, collectively, charged with ‘making a man’ of Ryan!! Frankly, I don’t think he needs help. He’s less muscled than we like, true, but that actually is helping him to discover that he can do acrobatics, although he is shooting up in height and that’s not so good. The middle school coaches want him for the basketball team and he’s quite keen, although he wants to join Leo and Chris in the wrestle team. But I think that’s not for him really, and I am supposed to know these things, as a gym coach. Basketball seems right. But anyway, we’ll certainly help to build him up a bit!

Here’s some inspiration!


Sit-ups for the more slender guy (nice pic here)…


Some basic balance…


Pike hold for strengthening shoulders and abs…


Soon be a bit bulkier…


Keep up the good work whenever and wherever you can…


Don’t be afraid to keep a record of your progress…


..as you get a bit stronger, move on to bench pressing, an excellent exercise if performed within your limits (Leo, Chris and Billy will be there to spot for you, Ryan!)…


Any gym anywhere… get your dad to fit up the basement…


…but in your case, Ryan, our cabin is always there for you, whenever!

Before long, this’ll be you, proudly showing off the results:

muscle pose

Mind you, there are some things you shouldn’t try…

dont try this at home

Do leave time for fun with your friends…



…and remember to tell your dad that when a friend helps out with the sun cream, it doesn’t mean he is gay!!


Nor, indeed, that you are gay! Just one of the many things that friends are for!







About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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