Watching our Backs…

Our visitors (Colin and family) plus Steve’s family, plus our kids along with ‘Ryan’, son of ‘still-slightly-homophobic-dad’, went for a long hike in the Smokies yesterday whilst Dave and I put in a long coaching shift at the gymnastics center. It was already dark when we returned, to find ‘phobodad’ on the doorstep looking anxious about what might have happened to his son. I think he was relieved to find out that he was with two straight couples… anyway, I was more worried about what Colin might do whilst driving my car on the ‘wrong’ side of the road in the dark. At that moment, they returned, all four boys desperately happy, ‘Ryan’ anxious to sleep over yet again so that the four of them could hit the weights at first light… and Ryan is developing amazing acrobatic and balance abilities, despite his height: the four are working together with him as so-called ‘top’, doing the clever balancing stuff!

So ‘phobodad’ went home happy, knowing that his son has not yet “been turned gay”, but we do feel we still have to ‘watch our backs’ a bit after the problems we have previously experienced in getting permission for ‘Ryan’ even to spend time with my son, whose parentage (1 lesbian mum + 1 gay dad) has long been viewed as ‘suspicious’!

Watching our backs…

4 checking

gym_br49_TINY PIC …that seems like a good theme for our photo-post today.


Backs don’t get the exposure they deserve in fitness-themed blogs, including this one, so here goes:




Three good examples there: the first one showing excellent peaky deltoids, the last one great trapezius and rhomboids and the middle one great lats and, again, deltoid development.

Here’s how it’s done:


Bar work brings great results too:

ceiling bar

…whilst good old-fashioned pull-ups are a great back exercise, especially if performed “behind the neck”:


Even yard work helps. This guy has a great tan but could probably use a bit more muscle:


So could this guy, although its a great picture:


Two for the price of one now: no muscle guys, these two, but cute:


Staying with black and white, a nice side view of a swimmer:


And the results: when you’ve got it, show it off!


…that V-shape is great, and the powerful shoulders and arms on top: another swimmer…w_b1e57200

And, when you’ve built it, use it!


…or just pose for a sexy picture:


tumblr_n1fe0bDxlI1r88674o1_500I am what I am, and ‘phobodad’ is just going to have to live with that. I pose no threat whatsoever to his son, which I had hoped he was beginning to realise, but we’ll see. Just hope he doesn’t know what the four boys are up to on their own, shedding clothes at every training opportunity, wrestling around… anyway, none of them is gay…

…but perhaps, without my own sexuality, these books would never have happened:

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

…discovering my own sexuality, finding gay love, gay guys together training mercilessly for their sport, some adventure… you just might enjoying exploring them as well as this blog.



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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2 Responses to Watching our Backs…

  1. pinkagendist says:

    Oxford’s not bad. I’m nuclearly impressed, generally. Small, small world 😛

    • tonycavanagh says:

      ERM, yes, well, Colin’s from Oxford and I lived there for a while as some early posts describe, so I can agree with the first sentence. I don’t really understand the rest of this comment but thanks for it anyway. If I’m missing something, try next!

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