Men and Boys

The visit of lifelong friend Colin and his family is approaching its end, and ‘Ryan’, the fourth member of the youthful ‘gang’ of fitness freaks has to leave on a visit to grandparents for Easter after the four of them complete their early-morning weights session today. Karen and Clare intend to spend the day with Dave’s daughter Jaymee working out new routines for their ‘fakir’ show, making use of Jaymee’s highly developed acrobatic talents, an activity in which Colin’s wife has expressed an interest. Which leaves three boys and four dads at a loose end, since we’re all off work ready for the break.

Loafing around the house, showing off?


Nah! Down to the public pool, showing off (it has just opened for the season)?


Nah, they’de never let us get away with that in the public pool…

River swim?


…maybe later. The ‘girls’ are going to do their thing in Cody’s barn which is near our swimming hole anyway, so we can join them after.

Chris came up with the answer – a ‘dads and lads’ challenge. Leo teamed with me, Chris with his dad Steve, Ollie with Colin and – oh. Dave left out? Can’t have that. Then Chris’s bodybuilder older brother Billy showed up to do his more extreme weights with his dad spotting – OK, Billy teams up with Dave, after. So it’s going to be lads against lads, dads against dads, then team against team…

Wrestling? Yes, certainly


Getting oily – definitely! Like this Turkish dude, but without the strange trousers…

turkish wrestler

Then, because it is going to be pleasantly warm outside, probably some ‘fun stuff’…



That’s a really fun picture because it is pouring with rain – three observers huddled under the tree – we love being barechested in the (warm) rain, too, especially when we go out on a run. Not everyone shares our affliction…


If we were close enough to the sea here, we’d certainly be in it, doing our thing!


So, it’s dads v lads, with Billy as a surrogate ‘son’ for Dave… and, as a champion teen bodybuilder, he’ll take some beating in any muscle competition!


We often catch the younger boys ‘posing’ against each other, but what’s really nice is that no one of them really wants to be better than the others – their little ‘gang’ wants every one of them to be ‘the best’, so they are constantly supporting each other, whether it be in the gym, on the weights, whatever…


The ‘dads’ will get beaten in this contest, undoubtedly. But we have the relaxation after to look forward to…


…and the beers, which will surely follow!

Sadly, the ‘lads’ gang reduces on Saturday when Colin and family fly home to UK, but Ollie and Leo will meet up in the summer when we go over to Wales, and Chris is desperately negotiating to be allowed to join us like he did last year. As for ‘Ryan’, with his non-sporty, overweight and gay-suspicious dad, he remains a huge friend of Leo and Chris, lifts weights with them and is a good balancer too, so we’ll see how he goes. He’d never be allowed out of the country unsupervised, that’s one thing for sure.

His real potential, frankly, is basketball and, as they say around here, he’s a mean ‘hoop shooter’. This household is atypical for the US – we don’t have a hoop next to the garage. And none of us really wants one.

A pool, now, that would be different…


…a beer, the sun, a lounger, a good book (or three)…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

OK. Time to sort the men from the boys!!

street workout muscle boy


Leo doesn’t call our training cabin at the top of the yard ‘The Sweat Room’ for nothing…




About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.