Not the Beginning of the End…

…but perhaps The End of the Beginning


When I was “afflicted“, two weeks back, with a massively swollen leg as a result of a blood clot, my first thought was ‘Well, that’s it, Tone – this is the beginning of the end’. In fact, although my leg is hugely swollen still, medical science tells me that it is far from the beginning of the end. Acrobatics is far from over, after a few more weeks (hopefully!) but, as age creeps on (low thirties), maybe one should perhaps stop thinking of yourself as a ‘boy’ and start thinking ‘Well, maybe this is the start of “real” adult life!’ Not that’ the end is nigh’, but maybe the first phase of life is coming to an end and it is time to face up to the next stage! Less mucking around, more ‘adult’ stuff. Well, maybe it is. I have a 12yo kid, for starters, and although blessed with more parents than the average kid, he doesn’t need to lose one early.

The medication is definitely a case of ‘swings and roundabouts’, hanging around a messing with the doses until the readings on my blood come out right…


…but, otherwise, it is pretty much ‘business as usual’ now, thank goodness (except kneeling, which is very difficult with a swollen knee). So I can still do this…


…so long as you don’t look too closely at the leg positions!

And this:


…but taking it rather easy, and definitely no leg exercises right now.

And this too, although my swimming stroke is rather ugly…


So, all in all, not too bad, eh?

Another problem vexing us right now is the mis-match between the American schools summer break time and the UK one – offset by almost six weeks, with our kids already out. This makes the timing of visiting Wales for son Leo and his friend Chris (yeah, he’s coming again!) to meet up with the British member of their fitness ‘triad’, young Ollie, rather critical. This year, Jaymee (Dave’s daughter) and the mums are not coming – Jaymee has some sort of amazing summer extravaganza with about 18 other girls going on – so Dave and I will be going over with just the boys. We have negotiated a four-day waiver for school re-start, which effectively gives us another week, but they have to be back in school by mid August so the Wales ‘window’ is about four weeks maximum this year from the middle of next month. We’re just going to ‘crash’ – if I’m still on blood tests, that is fixed up through the kind offices of our local friends in Wales, Tom and Iestyn and their helpful local surgery.

Life at this stage sure is complicated. Oh well, Shit happens, as they say. It happened to us before – different things, chronicled in these wonderful beach-time reads…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

…when you tire of swimming or other beach activity…




(that one courtesy of a bookstore right here in town which refuses to have a ‘gay’ section… hmmm)

So, lets all make the most of the summer with our friends…


…whether it be at the pool, in a boat…


…in a park…


…running at night…


…oh, damn, running is off my agenda too – I forgot… gym is still OK, though…


…but the star prize, as ever, is just ‘being with your loving partner’…


…ideally at least shirtless and barefoot and, if it gets too hot, as can happen here in Tennessee, you can always share a cooling tub of ice…


…and, at the end of the day, the best bit – getting ready for bed:



Something to look forward to (thanks, Dave!)… and tomorrow to look forward to as well – “Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life”. Aim to enjoy it!



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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