Flying High Again


Well: after all the recent upsets, I’m feeling rather good. Drugs seem to be working well, doctor and consultant have declared me fit to fly; had my first (gay) sex since over two weeks thanks to Pete and Ivo, two of our Tuan Jie buddies (and two more coming down from KY at the weekend!!); been told to recommence exercise after one more week so long as it is light at first; and, since I’m not on the circus tour, I’m going on holiday!! Sadly without my Dave, but there we go.

Lovely family nearby, of Korean descent, are taking a week there starting at the end of the month. They booked flights for all their family – non-refundable ones – and then, sadly ‘granny’ died about a month ago. For the cost of changing the name on the ticket, I get to take granny’s place. And it is business class, too, flat bed!! ‘Take your mind off things a bit’ they said. It’s going to be a bit weird, suddenly turning up in Korea a couple of weeks after getting a blood clot, but there you go. Fate takes its hand… I have had to arrange for a blood test while I’m there, but that’s all. I have been to Korea before, once, and I know the folks there are real nice.

Great friends and neighbours, our Koreans – never had any issues with us being a gay/lesbian household – and they absolutely adore the kids, just as we do. I can’t thank them enough for their kindness, and I’ll owe them a whole bunch of favours in return.

So, ‘things is lookin’ up!!’

Can’t wait to get back into this:


…and this…


(Seems appropriate today to use a Korean model for illustration!)

…and this…


…although it will be a while before my leg allows me to do this again:


Still, plenty of opportunities for fun in the sun this summer, if not for more rigorous training:




So, the gloom has dispersed. In my first book, Loving the Boy, I talk about the long times I spent helping Dave through a difficult and depressing period in his life. That showed us The Power of Love (that’s book 2), and how important it is, not only in the gay community but in general, to ‘be there’ for one another. I’ve certainly benefitted from that these last couple of weeks, and I’m profoundly grateful for that. And, just to wrangle in the third book title, I guess I’ve pulled through this Against All Odds, although that’s probably overstating things. At least, in the book, the adversities were different and made, after the event, a pretty good ‘thriller’ plot line, if I say so myself.

Gay love, acrobatics, wrestling, touring circus and adventure – all in there. And our obvious affection for looking at well-built young males, which this post now continues to do!



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Here’s a built guy who seems to need cheering up…

needs cheering up

…maybe his score on the high bar wasn’t too good. Oh well – maybe this finale will help… when Dave’s away, for reasons lost in history, cats sometimes make an appearance here. And, as the post title is ‘Flying High’ – he may appreciate this one (not):


Yes, it’s dead – and stuffed – and turned into a helicopter. From the current issue of the UK magazine which supports the homeless – The Big Issue. I couldn’t resist that one after our friends in the UK passed it on… not Batmobile but Catmobile…

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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