Young lads checking out their progress. Wanting to look good for themselves. For the girls… or, in more limited cases like Dave and I (!!) for the boys. But then, we’re not young any more. At ages 11 or 12, the three young ‘uns staying here with us in Wales are definitely into the girls, but there are none here. They are also definitely into fitness and acrobatics big time, and that’s for themselves. And, more importantly, for each other. The support they give each other, and the care they seem to have instinctively not to try and out-do one another, is humbling and inspirational.
So, today’s theme is support and encouragement in the pursuit of fitness and great looks, whatever sport or level of muscle you are after. Gay or straight – makes no difference. It can be as simple as complimenting each other in the locker room:
Offering a bit of much-needed massage or stretching (and having a bit of fun at the same time…):
Time taken chilling out:
…before attempting something that definitely requires good coordination between the partners:
Partners who are gay may, of course, take things a little further, especially in their ‘chillin’ time:
The straight guys, we assume, get the same love and attention from their wives and/or girlfriends. Maybe both… It is a necessary part of the process.
As far as the kids are concerned, support from adults – and guidance in their training – is essential too. With the amazing run of good weather here in Wales (now cooling off slightly with the odd downpour) the three boys vacationing here have had the time of their lives, able to run free/wild in an empty landscape of low mountains, rivers and woodland. Such a contrast to so many kids who stay glued to their i-pods/pads or the TV even in the sunniest weather. Whereas, our three little Tarzan’s are glowing with pride at their fitness, their suntans, and the chance they’ve had to just “be boys”.
Internet mate Ian (and BOOK READER, bless him – see below, guys) from southern England sent me this. As he pointed out, ‘this says it all’.
Actually, it could say a few other things, as he subliminally left for me to figure out. But let’s not go there!
My chance to do that stuff started well before the events in this first book, in which Dave and I discovered our gay love for each other and our addiction to acrobatics and weight training. No, it was with my best friend Colin (later to be Ollie’s dad, the 11yo I mentioned), aged about six, when we enjoyed halcyon summer days by the Oxford canal, skinny dipping and trying out gymnastics and acrobatics on the bank in the summer sun. VERY early posts in this blog cover all that.
The second book takes up where the first ends – with the conception of my own son (and, indeed, of Dave’s daughter). Yes. Gay dads, begged by two lovely lesbian girls to give them what they wanted… oh, how we agonised. But the joys that the kids have brought us are just too much to say here. So glad we did it… On that occasion, four of us were gathered together… and we did have support from quite a few of our gay friends too…
Finally, the third book continues the experience of touring with a circus and of things going scarily wrong for a while. What that means I leave you to discover for yourselves… books are to be bought and read, after all! Click on a cover and also remember that the e-books are out there in the usual places.
So what’s the message? “Gather together”. You’ll support and encourage one another in whatever you are seeking to achieve. In our case that was acrobatic skills and fitness… wanting to be looking great for an audience to admire us as well as the balances and stuff. We’re wearing out a bit now, and looking to the next young generation to carry our banner forward as we drift more into coaching. Which said:
Yes, WHATEVER your age!! It’s not just a matter now of standing back and trying to keep the looks, just because we’re reaching our mid-30s:
(although we do!).. no, it’s about driving the others forward. Helping with flexibility:
…balance (this is the stunning British lad Edward Upcott on his pedestal):
Yup. Driving on… by example, and by applying the knowledge. Building the confidence to show off what you have achieved, encouraging each other ‘so long as one of us wins and the other comes second!’ …
…as this next picture clearly indicates, you’ll have STAMINA, DETERMINATION, stand for SUCCESS AND NOTHING LESS, and CONQUER the opposition (and a mate to take your posed pictures and leak them onto the internet)…
Go on. Grab your mate and “get physical”!! Oh, go on, you know what I mean…