‘When Two or Three are Gathered Together…’


Young lads checking out their progress. Wanting to look good for themselves. For the girls… or, in more limited cases like Dave and I (!!) for the boys. But then, we’re not young any more. At ages 11 or 12, the three young ‘uns staying here with us in Wales are definitely into the girls, but there are none here. They are also definitely into fitness and acrobatics big time, and that’s for themselves. And, more importantly, for each other. The support they give each other, and the care they seem to have instinctively not to try and out-do one another, is humbling and inspirational.

So, today’s theme is support and encouragement in the pursuit of fitness and great looks, whatever sport or level of muscle you are after. Gay or straight – makes no difference. It can be as simple as complimenting each other in the locker room:

lockerroom lads

Offering a bit of much-needed massage or stretching (and having a bit of fun at the same time…):


Time taken chilling out:


…before attempting something that definitely requires good coordination between the partners:



Partners who are gay may, of course, take things a little further, especially in their ‘chillin’ time:


The straight guys, we assume, get the same love and attention from their wives and/or girlfriends. Maybe both… It is a necessary part of the process.

As far as the kids are concerned, support from adults – and guidance in their training – is essential too. With the amazing run of good weather here in Wales (now cooling off slightly with the odd downpour) the three boys vacationing here have had the time of their lives, able to run free/wild in an empty landscape of low mountains, rivers and woodland. Such a contrast to so many kids who stay glued to their i-pods/pads or the TV even in the sunniest weather. Whereas, our three little Tarzan’s are glowing with pride at their fitness, their suntans, and the chance they’ve had to just “be boys”.

Internet mate Ian (and BOOK READER, bless him – see below, guys) from southern England sent me this. As he pointed out, ‘this says it all’.

tumblr_n8m7lcIL1u1teo92co1_1280 (640x640)

Actually, it could say a few other things, as he subliminally left for me to figure out. But let’s not go there!

The first book...My chance to do that stuff started well before the events in this first book, in which Dave and I discovered our gay love for each other and our addiction to acrobatics and weight training. No, it was with my best friend Colin (later to be Ollie’s dad, the 11yo I mentioned), aged about six, when we enjoyed halcyon summer days by the Oxford canal, skinny dipping and trying out gymnastics and acrobatics on the bank in the summer sun. VERY early posts in this blog cover all that.

Cover2 FullThe second book takes up where the first ends – with the conception of my own son (and, indeed, of Dave’s daughter). Yes. Gay dads, begged by two lovely lesbian girls to give them what they wanted… oh, how we agonised. But the joys that the kids have brought us are just too much to say here. So glad we did it… On that occasion, four of us were gathered together… and we did have support from quite a few of our gay friends too…

Cover 3 FullFinally, the third book continues the experience of touring with a circus and of things going scarily wrong for a while. What that means I leave you to discover for yourselves… books are to be bought and read, after all! Click on a cover and also remember that the e-books are out there in the usual places.

So what’s the message? “Gather together”. You’ll support and encourage one another in whatever you are seeking to achieve. In our case that was acrobatic skills and fitness… wanting to be looking great for an audience to admire us as well as the balances and stuff. We’re wearing out a bit now, and looking to the next young generation to carry our banner forward as we drift more into coaching. Which said:


Yes, WHATEVER your age!! It’s not just a matter now of standing back and trying to keep the looks, just because we’re reaching our mid-30s:


(although we do!).. no, it’s about driving the others forward. Helping with flexibility:



weight training rules OK

…balance (this is the stunning British lad Edward Upcott on his pedestal):

upcott 1450275_669383119749038_631306561_n

Yup. Driving on… by example, and by applying the knowledge. Building the confidence to show off what you have achieved, encouraging each other ‘so long as one of us wins and the other comes second!’ …


…as this next picture clearly indicates, you’ll have STAMINA, DETERMINATION, stand for SUCCESS AND NOTHING LESS, and CONQUER the opposition (and a mate to take your posed pictures and leak them onto the internet)…


Go on. Grab your mate and “get physical”!! Oh, go on, you know what I mean…


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.