The Power of Mud

(and water…)



Kind of smug satisfaction feeling today! No 1: Dave’s back (the warm scent of his soft skin as I wake… etc); No 2: single mum from down in the town with two boys aged 13 and 9 – husband died suddenly and boys totally introverted as a result of the shock – general-store lady suggested we could host them with our three resident boys for an hour or so as an experiment… well, Dave and I were unsure they would to mix with three boys so obviously in their own ‘clan’, two with American accents and all of them highly sporty…

Well. Dave and I, the local boys’ mum and Ollie’s mum and dad have been entertained for ages watching five kids who couldn’t be happier. As Dave put it: ‘just add water and mud’… he gets that from the internationally-known gymnastics tee-shirt which says ‘gymnast – just add chalk’!

They did all have shorts to start with but that didn’t last, what with the wrestling in a home-made mud hole, the fearsome games of tag, the swimming… rubbing mud into each other’s hair, a mud fight in which they tried to involve us until we retreated for a coffee…

The mum delighted, because she hasn’t been able to unglue her boys from their computer and phone screens since her tragedy, now seems them behaving as boys should. I’ve retreated into the house to write this, but last saw Leo showing off (balance!) with Chris and Ollie trying to teach the local boys a thing or two in that respect…

As the afternoon has worn on, and the mum had other things to do, it’s been ‘can we stay?’ and ‘when can we come back, please?’

We’re naturally delighted that we’ve been able to take those two sad boys out of themselves for a few hours and, of course, they can sure come back whilst we’re still here (just a week to go, sadly, because of US school term starting mid-August).

As I said in a recent post (I think I did!) – boys just need to be boys, however mature they can be (or need to be) at other times. And the generally fantastic weather we’ve enjoyed in Wales this summer has certainly made sure of that. If only Dave and I were back at that age… still, it won’t stop us joining in next time.

Let’s celebrate our small contribution there with some fit lads from the collection:



abs 23

basement gym




boat boi


The first book...Just thought I’d sneak this in… click for more information…

One tiny cloud on this morning’s horizon, shortly after the two local boys arrived, was Leo commenting to me that they didn’t seem very sporty. Needed to point out to him (right) tumblr_lvz07ynxat1qmuk05o1_500that you don’t make judgements on just one thing: those boys might be brilliant at something else that Leo would be rubbish at. I hope all three of ‘our’ lot got the point: certainly, since that potential little glitch, things couldn’t have gone more smoothly. They’re certainly not afraid to jump into cold water, which is one thing that Leo judges everyone by…


Odra River

..nor, indeed, getting caught in a short sharp shower just now – that saw them back in the river…

rain swimmer

Cover2 Full So that’s our little contribution to cheering up two boys who have had a bit of a bad time, whilst ‘Tash did a good job with their mum too. Let’s hope that the news spreads in the town just a bit – especially to those folks bothered that Dave and I are gay and have kids here… arrgh!

Cover 3 FullThat’s not to say we don’t get up to gay stuff – which obviously does NOT involve our kids or anyone else’s. As if we would. You can read a lot more about us (and about that!) in the books shown here (e-books available for the financially challenged – they’re cheaper).

A couple more fitness pics to finish off with, then (enough mud and water for one post, perhaps):

dont mess with me

…gosh, he doesn’t look too happy having his picture taken… let’s have a smile:


…well, that’s a little better, but this smiley (and wet) boy does seem to be enjoying his moment of fame…


And finally: let’s enjoy nature – as nature intended!




About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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