Labor Day Gathering

Tuan JieThere are eleven of us who proudly carry this ‘strength through brotherhood’ symbol on our left lower backs, nestling just above the tan line. That’s eleven gay guys who have sworn to maintain their fitness, to support one another and, most importantly, to keep themselves ‘clean’ by never, ever, engaging in penetrative sex outside of the group (so that we can confidently do exactly that within the group!). One guy, our lovely British gymnast friend Richard, left with everyone’s blessing to enjoy a wonderful monogamous relationship with a guy called CJ down in Florida – which leaves the current ten.

How this all comes about in the first place, I leave you to discover here. Note that these links are up to date at the time of writing… gotta say that after my discovery yesterday that the publisher changed the page names… grrr…

The first book...Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

So, six of us have been together for the entire Labor Day Weekend: working out on the weights…


…both in our cabin and in Chad’s private gym (where special things happen!); a bit of wrestling (because that’s where Leon and Dane specialise)…


…some acrobatics (where Dave and I specialise)…


… hanging around by the river…




…even us ‘old’ guys still enjoy climbing trees and rocks…


And so to Labor Day itself. Six of us for breakfast, and for the training cabin. Kids away, girls gone (with two Chinese martial arts boys) to join the circus tour alongside our acrobats Ethan and Jack, and Zach and Gary expected back later, returning in the girls’ car (because we have a converted bus on the tour providing accommodation etc). A relaxing morning, and then (again) down to the woods – Cody’s place in a remote location by the river bank – where we can all hang out as we like to be – barefoot and shirtless (or more) in the open air, light wind on our backs, shade under the trees when we need it – and a fire and food to enjoy with our friends. Cody and his housemate ‘Adge’ aren’t in the Tuan Jie  ‘closed’ clan, but they’re gay too, members of Chad’s special gym and so enjoy the same things as we do. Not sure quite what these next two are enjoying – your suggestions are very welcome…


…whereas this is pretty clear!!…


Zach and Gary arrived just as darkness was falling. They’ve been away for ten weeks and, although Dave was performing with them for the first four, the rest of us haven’t seen them all that time. Which makes eight naked Tuan Jie guys…

“If you go down to the woods today, you better go in disguise…

…for every bear that ever there was will gather there for certain because

Today’s the day the teddy bears have their pic-nic!” (Henry Hall)

Well, not quite, but substitute us lot for the bears, Cody and Adge as welcome and understanding bystanders, and essentially zero chance of ever being disturbed. And inevitably, Zach, who devised Tuan Jie in the first place, takes the initiative:

‘Let’s reaffirm our vows’

This involves each guy filling a paper cup with his own product. Then, arms around each other’s shoulders in a circle, the oath – something like:

‘I solemnly swear that I have not, and will not, enjoy penetrative relations with anyone who is not Tuan Jie’

We all have special partners, of course (Dave!!) but within the group there is an understanding that these things may be shared. The cups are then passed round, and everyone takes a sip from all the others. Kind of sealing the bond of love and support. I know, it sounds disgusting. And Zach, as ever, mischievous…

‘OK guys, now everyone f**k the guy on your left!”

I’ll draw the veil here, but the lovely Leon was on my left, and I was on the left of Ivo…

Cover2 FullCover 3 FullThere’s something special about doing it outdoors, in the dark, around a crackling fire, in the company of the best mates in the world. It’s the sort of loving atmosphere that finally inspired me to write it all down. All 750,000 words of it, capturing the discovery of gay love, the ‘buzz’ of fitness training in the company of like-minded guys, performing on various circus tours around the world, and having a couple of serious misadventures along the way.

With a renewed apology that many of the links to the books in the older posts will no longer work, thanks to my publisher mucking around with their website again, I’ll finish off this post once again with a little more fitness inspiration: remember, you’re never too old to get back in training, and this could be YOU!


by lorenzo lee


cargoes on beach

chest 44

Here’s a vintage one of lads enjoying themselves… there’s nothing new (and no implications here of their sexuality either, but look where one guy has his hand!)…straight guys often enjoy physical contact activities just as much as gay guys – testing out their strength and so on…


And to finish, two posed pictures. One to remind us of that special relationship between gay couples, and one to illustrate how the combination of a great physique and a great photographer can work magic. Enjoy!

posed pair

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About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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