Back with the Group


Gather together a group of guys into fitness, and the magic starts to happen. Encouragement, friendly competitiveness, support and good humour abound. I’ve been away in the backwoods for a week with just one other guy (Carlos) but, great and superbly fit guy that he is, he’s not exactly a conversationalist. After knowing him for 11 years, I’m still not sure whether he is gay or straight – to my knowledge he has had neither girlfriend nor boyfriend in that time, devoting his entire attention to himself – his fitness and his appearance. He’s a great wrestle partner, loves to train with us… and that’s it. His entire life story, apart from the paid work as a roofer that he does in between training! Oh, and the modelling we pushed him into and he now enjoys.

So I’m glad to be back with a larger group (and, obviously, with my beautiful Dave).


In our group, no-one tries to be ‘better’ than the next guy – the idea is to encourage everyone to do what you can do, and collectively improve.




That’s certainly how our acrobatic group works.

Of course, working in pairs is very helpful too – you can’t do everything in a large group!

buddy power

…one other guy spotting for you in the more challenging weights moves is perfect – and just look at the power of the pecs on both of them!

An ‘artistic’ gymnasium is often full of camerarderie, alongside the obvious competitiveness of each guy wanting to score the greater number of points in a competition (but for his team as well as for himself)…


By the way, “wood” you get this… just the sort of wrestling match I would enjoy:

wrestlers maybe

Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbCamerarderie, by the way, is the name of the game in these three books (click on covers!): the comradeship of the group of fitness freaks (acrobats), the perfect partnerships within the larger group (Dave and I taking the lead here – he’s the ‘Boy’ of the title); the ‘Power of Love’ in keeping things together and sharing that love within the group. Then, working as a group, getting ourselves out of some seriously awkward situations. e-books available.

So, the group of two can work – so long as the other person isn’t the strong silent type with whom you are marooned in the outback! Both professionally, for example…


…and, of course, where the other guy is that ‘special’ person…




So it’s great to be back with Dave…

B n W Male Studios 113 (30)

..but also great to be working out alongside assorted members of the ‘herd’…


…and ‘playing’ too…


Again, ‘quite’.

So, if your ‘significant other’ is another guy, love him…


…but be sure, both of you, to make time for other friends too!

My final pic for this post is a special for Dave. That’s Dave who, once before and let loose with this blog whilst I was away, filled a post up with extraneous cats. OK, just for once (and just for him), I found this picture which illustrates purrfectly the group I  didn’t mean in this post’s title!


Love you, Dave…



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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