Snapshot from ‘The Sweat Room’


American households go to bed early and rise early and, normally, our ‘extended’ household is no exception. Usually it is Pete and Ivo who are first into the training cabin in the early morning, around 6am, but this week they are coaching the elite gymnasts in a pre-school session at the gym center…


…so, back at the ranch, it is the young boys who arrive first.

6.30am Thursday morning. Ryan’s formerly homophobic father now drops him off for his daily workout with Leo and Chris (see ‘Make a Man of Him’); Steve brings his two over (Chris and 19yo bodybuilder Billy) and Leo was already warmed up, waiting for them. It’s a ‘back and legs’ day for them, and the three boys are ‘rotating’ duties to keep their momentum going. Leo is on his hands and knees, making a ‘bench’ for Ryan, who lies on his chest on Leo’s back, arms stretched out to the sides, lifting a pair of dumbbells from the floor as high up behind him as he can manage.  As his repetitions become harder, Chris gives a little assistance for those so-important harder reps, and then swops the dumbbells for a lighter pair to allow Ryan to continue a little more, squeezing every last ounce of effort out of his rhomboids and shoulders. When he finally ‘fails’, they swop duties around and now Leo is lifting…


In the corner, Billy is pushing huge weights with his father Steve spotting for him…

before and after 1

In between, Steve joins Dave and I in our weights routine – three 30-somethings also working as a team, inspiring – or maybe being inspired by! – the 12yos!

before and after 2

Not for nothing does Leo call our cabin ‘The Sweat Room’! Ryan is a fairly sweaty boy anyway, and rivulets are running down his sides as he works out, and dripping on to my son’s back. This is, of course, a barefoot and shirtless zone and, when it’s jusy guys, mostly no-one bothers with clothes at all.

Currently missing is Dave’s daughter Jaymee. Normally, she does her strength training for acrobatics with her mum and her mum’s lesbian partner but, right now, they’re away with the circus tour. So Jaymee has remained in her room this morning, stretching, contorting and practicing different hand-balance positions on her ‘blocks’ (pedestals). Jaymee is maturing fast and, although brought up in an essentially naturist household, now prefers to use a leotard herself although perfectly tolerant of the rest of her extended family doing their ‘naked’ thing if they want. Today she will do her strength work after school, the boys usually being held back for wrestle-team practice or something similar. When she does train alongside the boys, they are shrewd enough to keep their shorts on.

So, that heady smell of sweat that so turns me on…

sweaty marcus


I think a lot of it (for me) is admiration of the efforts the guys have been making to get that sweaty… male bodies doing their thing! OK, you can get deliciously sweaty just sunbathing…

sweaty sunbather

(and doesn’t he look delicious?) but, ideally, the sweat will have been produced through hard physical work…

sweaty boxer

And of course, if the sweaty dude just happens to be my Dave: he’s always deliciously soapy-scented when we take to our bed. We kiss (of course)…


… and his sweet breath mingles with mine. I nuzzle his armpits, freshly re-developing their male muskiness, and similar his ‘private’ parts: sweet feet, too, to which I am attracted as much as his ‘personal places’… we drift off to sleep, noses almost touching, with sweet dreams of each other and anticipating the stronger more developed male odours which will greet us when we wake…


But, I have digressed into delivering the fourth part of the ‘Five Senses of Dave’ series! Meanwhile, back at the ranch:

7.20am. School starts early in USA, so the three 12yos hurtle out the back to hose themselves fresh (cold water, naturally), towel off, grab some shorts to race back up to the house in case neighbours are about, and down into Leo’s basement to change into clothes more suitable for school. Jaymee will join them for the 10-minute walk. But the boys’ shirts will probably stay tucked into their waistbands until inside the school gates – girls to impress with their increasingly ‘stacked’ bodies!! And, being a ‘gang of three’, they can deal with any sneering from other less-well-endowed’ boys… group ‘therapy’ is always nice (unlike this ‘flip’!!)…


…and the boys are so supportive of one another in their training…. (literally here!):


Everyone in our ‘Sweat Room’ is doing what they are doing because they want to be there. Both generations. Supporting, inspiring, encouraging. I’ve been part of it since age 16 7/8, when Dave first pulled my shirt over my head and let his lips brush against my chest in what I still believe was his first gay ‘kiss’. Pete and Ivo put me through a gruelling ‘try-out’ – see Loving the Boy – and then left Dave to get me into wrestling…


…except that jeans were already off, and the shorts swiftly followed!

Very occasionally, this habitual nakedness in the extended families does run into trouble… yesterday afternoon I happened to be in the kitchen late afternoon talking with an insurance agent about the car. Boys back from school, Ryan waiting to be picked up, so all three down in Leo’s basement practicing their wrestling holds. Leo comes up to raid the fridge for drinks – not a stitch on, fails to notice the stranger… oh well.

We all absolutely love our lifestyle – fit bodies, open air, water… (oh yes, skinny dipping is great too):


Long may it continue!


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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4 Responses to Snapshot from ‘The Sweat Room’

  1. Ryan says:

    Who is the kid in the green shorts lifting the weights? He’s in great physical shape

    • tonycavanagh says:

      I’m afraid he’s just an internet find – I know he’s a wrestler (just add up the weights on that bar!) – I found him on I have a couple more of him to post in due time – he sure likes a tough workout!

      • Ryan says:

        could you send me a link to his pics?

      • tonycavanagh says:

        Well, the site was in the previous reply – It was a post called something like ‘wrestle training’ – unfortunately they only keep the most current 9 pages or so and I fear that he has now dropped off the end of the board, as it were. I have one more to post shortly: I’ve put at least three into previous posts if you search around. Sorry I cannot be more helpful.

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