Found in the Woods

Currently it is dipping well below freezing at night here in Oak Ridge, and getting up around 48F late afternoon (that’s about 9C). So not really shirtless weather, not even for son Leo! We have been known to do this…


..and, indeed to go into the ice-covered stream after, but not with the current wind chill! And, right now, there is no snow in Oak Ridge, so any of this will have to wait…

enjoy the snow


Last evening, I went for a run with Pete (Dave’s older brother), my son Leo, and his friend Ryan. Just for once, their other partner in fitness crime, Chris, was otherwise occupied. Up across the railroad track and into the trees, a favourite loop which would take us eventually back down to Ryan’s house where he would drop off. Dave had taken Jaymee over to the gym centre to train with her new acrobatic trio. We were sufficiently warmed up for Leo to be just pulling his tee-shirt off over his head, and I was thinking of doing the same, when a guy came out of a side track not exactly shirtless already, but in one of those vests that is split all the way down to the waist at the sides.

‘Hi – can I run with you for a bit?’

Sure he could. This was a well muscled but clearly slim waisted figure, obviously keen on his fitness and probably with ripped abs under that vest, and we’re always keen to meet such guys!

A bit like this guy:


Early twenties I should think. Turns out he is new to the place, having moved east from Arkansas a few days ago to take up a new job, keen to find training mates and a new gym. ‘Any advice?’ Well, yes. All the big names are here – Golds, CrossFit etc) but basically we hate them with their rigid rules, ‘shirts-on’ policies and costs and, anyway, we have our own training cabin, as well as access to Chad’s private fitness palace for ‘suitable’ candidates. And here, Pete and I quickly decided, was a possible ‘suitable candidate’.

We persuaded him to stick with us and to come back to our training cabin, go through our little footbath, get his vest off, lift a few weights with us…


That was impressive, so we suggested wrestling – he was kewl with that, if a little rusty since his school days and unfazed by us going shirtless, barefoot and just undies – and then even a little simple acrobatics…


Don’t think he’s gay, but he’s definitely tolerant of our antics, because Ivo arrived for his workout and unthinkingly pulled his shorts straight off before even noticing our guest…

…so we told him about Chad’s place and asked if he be interested in knowing more. An absolute ‘yes’ to that: these days, Chad lets potential newbies actually see the equipment and the wrestling pits and so forth before they are invited to initiate, so they know what they are getting into. Anyway, the guy – Joel – has the abilities and seems to have the commitment. He was very interested in our ‘careers’ as performers, too, with great interest in our bed of nails and tub of broken glass: of course, we needed to prove to him  that the bed of nails was for him, too! And (good sign!) when he left us to run home again, he just tucked the vest into the top of his shorts!

I think we’ve found us a new weights mate (at least) when at Chads!


Gotta be better than Gold’s anyway and it will cost him a lot less.

OK, now let me entertain you a little more with some excellent examples of good training!


gymnast by pavl

HCover1 Thumbere’s how Dave and I got into this gay love, acrobatics stuff…


pipework 1


ICover2 Thumbnto touring, and raising a son as a gay dad…





TCover 3 Thumbhe big finish (after a big mess-up)…



And, finally, two for the price of one.


Mine’s the one on the right – I like the tan, the sweat, the fuzz, the twisted grin… and his hair is a mess after his sport, just like mine does…

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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