Proud Parents


Being proud is part of being fit – you worked hard for those gains, and want to show off. Gays do it all the time – posing gym bunnies!

It’s not so often the case that gays get a chance to be proud of their kids, for obvious reasons, but those of you in the know – long-term blog or book readers…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

…will know that I have a son and that my partner Dave has a daughter. Last evening, we and their mums (lesbian couple) attended one of the shows that Leo and Jaymee were asked to put on following their TV debut some weeks ago. 15 minutes of acrobatics, tumbling and endurance activities (bed of nails, glass etc) – all a result of spending their first 13 years in the company of acrobatic and showmen parents and their friends.


Sentimental Slush Alert!

We were there to support, of course – preparing their stage and moving equipment around – but not, for once, part of the performance. We stood in the ‘wings’ (as it were), each mum with an arm around each dad, so in my case that’s Clare, tears streaming down her face, hugging me close with a stifling kiss… ‘Oh Tone, I owe you so much – aren’t they wonderful…?‘ Of course, they were. They’ll be better acrobats than we ever were and, naturally, we are immensely proud of them. Proud of the dedication to fitness and training that they are prepared to put it when other teenage interests compete for their time. With Leo, that’s Klara, his latest girlfriend, who just happens to part of an acrobatic trio involving Jaymee and thus a girl who shares his first love of gym and willingly puts up with his shirtlessness, his frequent sweatiness, and his showing off…

…Jaymee has not yet embarked  on the boyfriend trail with quite the same determination, but she’s looking, definitely! Which gives the lie to those critics of gay parenting who think that the kids will be ‘taught’ to grow up gay…

So. The torch is being carried forward by the next generation. As long as they keep training, keep up their flexibility…


…they can be in the business for their next 30 years if they want!

By which time, I think we’ll definitely have retired from this sort of thing…


…and we’ll definitely be a bit old to be showing off on the beach…


Actually, I wasn’t going to post about this sentimental tosh at all, except for a strange coincidence. A friend 4000 miles away in Wales messaged us that his older son (9, maybe 10 – not sure) has just been selected to represent his country in the national boys squash squad – he’s off to the French Open next week and then to training camps ahead of an international in Scotland. So Ashley and his wife are feeling a teensie bit proud, too! And so they should. Your kids are the future and, as Dave and I have been able to demonstrate, being a gay couple does not have to stand in the way. Adoption rules are also much relaxed now in many countries, and supporting your kids as they work towards their goals – whatever they are – is an amazing feeling.

And, now, let’s support fitness and sporting achievement in ALL age groups and sexualities!



well worked out






Cover1 ThumbCover2 ThumbCover 3 ThumbJust a final line as a reminder that those books are out there – both in print and as e-books – click on the covers for suitable links!

And, actually, the very last line today is a slack line. Huge fun, once you get the knack. Especially if, as here, you get to do it on what appears to be a tropical island. Enjoy!



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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2 Responses to Proud Parents

  1. Paul says:

    IN 5-10 years those young fellows, your son among them will, it is safe to say, be stars
    in any of the related directions they wish to go i.e. acrobatics, games, athletics of any sort, aesthetics (now a competitive natural branch of bodybuildimg) gymnastics, ANYTHING!
    The beauty in these beasts is limitless.

  2. tonycavanagh says:

    Thanks Paul for your nice remarks and for your continuing interest!

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