On Feeling Vulnerable


Fit guys is what it’s all about here. And on being a gay guy. But I’m one unfit gay guy right now, still nursing a horrible cold inflicted, almost certainly, by a bout of uncontrolled sneezing and coughing by one of our gymnasts at the center. So, a day off work today. Got to thinking how vulnerable we can be, however fit we are, to all those assorted bugs and viruses.

Then got to reading the local newspapers, which I rarely do. “Three-year-old shoots his 18-month old brother in the head” rages the headline. And in Coffee County, which I reckon is just over 100 miles from where we are now, here in Tennessee. The piece went on to mention three similar incidents this year in Texas, plus a toddler who shot his mom dead in a supermarket whilst fiddling about with her handbag…

As a Brit in exile, I find this gun-toting, ‘right to bear arms’ American society really weird. All fired up by the National Rifle Association, which appears to take the view that the best defence against a guy with a gun is another guy with a bigger gun.

LCover 3 Thumboyal readers here will be aware that we once got shot at in the middle of an acrobatic show – not in the US, as it happens, but in UK, although the shooter was a crazed US redneck. The reasons for that were much deeper than first appeared, and I have expanded on it all in those three books,

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

…with the final explanation all coming together in Against All Odds. And my good friend Zach’s fitness regime played a huge role in his surviving a bullet in the chest. So fitness definitely is good…


…and it works even better when the fitness dudes train in packs, encouraging one another!


About a year ago, a British girl, former acrobat who I got to know quite well, was hit by a car in a UK city driven by a ‘boy racer’. Although she suffered multiple fractures, her instinctive gymnastic training of ‘balling up’ when falling or going out of control probably saved her life. Yes, we are all vulnerable to the unexpected, but being fit can pay handsome rewards. So, if you are a couch potato who thinks that we fitness freaks are mad, maybe think again?

It’s just a pity that being strong and fairly flexible can’t protect you against throat viruses!

Let’s celebrate the fit, then, as usual:





The first part... tumblr_ng57yuzQ7B1rswp1to1_1280


The second part...








Hope that lot inspired you just a little. I feel a lot better for having reviewed my picture collection…

…and WordPress just told me that this is my 666th post – the devil’s work indeed…


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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