The Mating Games

3 toughies

Boys training together. We are currently hosting five of them in the age range 12 – 14, a mix of Brits and US. See recent posts! All busy lifting weights, practicing acrobatics, wrestling, and inventing new games involving beds of nails and so forth. Such fun.


Two of them – my son Leo and his friend Chris, both currently 13, will be joining us on a circus tour during the summer school vacation. And so will Dave’s daughter, Jaymee. And is this the reason that Chris really wants to go? Hard to say, but they are visibly warming to each other’s attentions, and it is quite fun to watch. Jaymee is in an acrobatic gymnastics trio with two other girls including Leo’s current heartthrob Karla, so he’s really torn! Desperate to spend as much time as possible with his training mates, but also inventing all sorts of excuses to go to the gymnastics center whenever Karla is training… it’s quite funny really. And yet there are those ‘out there’ who are convinced that because both Leo and Jaymee have gay parents, they must be gay themselves… all I can say to those folks is ‘come and watch’!

There’s an awful lot of posing going on…


…al the boys are keen to be admired, but wholly support each other’s achievements at the same time. Equally, we can watch Leo and Chris finding reasons to get their shirts off (and more!) in front of those girls…

As to the other three lads; local boy Ryan comes from a previously homophobic family but is now happily integrated with ours, although I have not noticed signs of interest in the girls so far. Ollie, at 12yo and son of my oldest friend, is perhaps too young to have really taken any interest in girls just yet other than his young sister, whom he adores, whilst the oldest and new one to us, Alex, at 14yo and the other English boy, is interesting. He comes from a rather sheltered background I suspect (only child like me) and he does seem to have a wandering eye for other guys rather than any girls who happen to pass through. Seems glad to have waved his parents off in their rental car for a few days whilst he relaxes (visibly) with the rest of us. Who knows? And he’s a terrifically talented gymnast…

p bars

Anyway, it’s their lives to do with as they will, not ours to pass judgements! Parents of older kids keep saying things to me like ‘It gets worse before it gets better!’ Time to reflect…


…I guess that Dave and I gave our parents a pretty hard time when we discovered our love for each other and they had to find out… it’s all in here:

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

OK, let’s have some fun of our own – the gay (or not, take your choice) physique-admiring fitness-fanatical pictures kind!










xheni - core strength

That final pic is a NovelArt image, courtesy Roman, in tribute to an Austrian gymnast we know well who trains to high intensity and, as a result, is just facing his third operation on his shoulder… and it’s a message to our five young lads spending Easter together here. If you always want to be better than you are now, and train intensively and unremittingly, it can pay off… but there can be consequences…

…so maybe it’s OK to take a little time out to eye up the girls!

The first part...The second part...Cover 3 Thumb

About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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