Building the Body You Need

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After yesterday’s rant against bodybuilding ‘just for the sake of it’, I decided that I needed to be more positive about working out to build the body you need – where “need” has a wider definition. So I use my special group of fitness-freak (and gay) friends as an example.

We number ten overall who have sworn to share not just our love of training and performance skills, but also our gay love in the fullest sense – and to withhold ourselves from any other sexual contacts in the name of avoiding STDs. One other early member left us to enjoy a monogamous relationship with a fellow gym coach, and they’re doing great in Florida.

Actually, this weekend, we mustered just seven out of ten of us – Ethan and Jack continue performing in a show in Canada, and Ivo is away following a family bereavement. Drawing a discreet veil over the late-night shenanigans – you could, should you wish to, read a lot about that sort of thing in these three books…

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

…there’s a lot more to them than the sex, I hasten to add…

But anyway, to business! “One size does NOT fit all”, even in our business.

abs superior

Let’s start with Leon and Dane, down from Lexington: their principal sport is wrestling (various styles, including our favourite submission style) although they did once join us in an acrobatic circus tour – “the one that went wrong”, as detailed in Against All Odds. Leon has the most marvellous lean and ripped body I have ever seen – strong, but tailored basically to what his partner Dane likes. Dane, in contrast, has developed a much chunkier body – because that what Leon likes…


By the way, these pictures are not the actual lads in question. In general, we try to maintain a bit of privacy here although, if you look through all the posted pictures carefully, you’ll surely find us all eventually!

So Leon and Dane train together, in their apartment and in their wrestling club gym, not only for their general fitness needed for their chosen sport, but for each other. A perfect partnership, made in the gym.

The next twosome up is Gary and Zach. Gary has always been into martial arts, before he even met any of us, and he is the “strong man” on the team, having trained (also described in Against All Odds) to perform fearsome feats like balancing on his stomach on a single spear point (kung fu style) and being run over across his stomach and chest by a minivan (as we must call them here in the States, or a people carrier to Europeans).

gym poser

At the same time, his original sport demands extraordinary flexibility in splits and such forth…


Zach, in contrast, has always been our best tumbler, but is a good all-rounder acrobat as well: his regime has kept him slim and powerful, like this:



Dave and I are something of a matched pair, I guess, specialising in balance and a little bit of aerial work. We needed strength above all else, with as much flexibility as we can maintain – not huge muscle. It seems to work for us, performing this kind of thing:




Which leaves Dave’s brother Pete, whose main interest of late has been maintaining his own fitness in order to be a convincing gymnastics coach: he has done less performing in recent years and seems unlikely to be involved in the forthcoming circus gigs… so he does weights for strength and flexibility, with less emphasis now on the ‘tricks’ (balance and so on):




As for the ‘missing’ three, Ethan and Jack are also balancers, specialising in head balances, and quite good tumblers: Ivo is a great all rounder and also still hangs from his long pony tail occasionally, although after doing that for more than 15 years he is starting to think it might be starting to come loose!

So you can see, I hope, how the team varies the training according to need, and certainly doesn’t lift weights obsessively for the strange goal of simply wanting to be bigger than the next guy…

And, yes, we do (all) let our hair down, quite frequently…


…doing stupid stuff…

image removed at the owners request


…although that’s in the ‘act’. We might easily be persuaded to take on this lot at snow wrestling (in the right season!), for example:


I guess that the shared ‘drive’ for the whole group to be excellent sharpens up the training, but nothing is ever done ‘just for the sake of being bigger than the next guy’. Just mutual admiration and encouragement…


And then, after, of course, we have our own special bonuses, we gay lads, of a comfortable warm and (frankly) sexy partner to snuggle with… (or several!):



So, don’t take yesterday’s comments about competitive bodybuilding to imply we don’t encourage weight training etc. Good heavens – what else would we do with our time?!


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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3 Responses to Building the Body You Need


    I ‘m not totally tongue-in-cheek on this as I Iike to be decadent .. .I’m 79 now and still get
    off on hot studs (just about everyone in your lovely website). I got into bodybuilding; pure
    natural kind, right diet, 5x a week at the gym protein supplements, 5% bodyfat and all.
    It held me up from a degenerative spine with a near perfect trunk. The competitive part
    was pure fun, meeting alot of incredibly hot studs, (mostly straight), getting hundreds of complements mostly from younger guys since I was the oldest Dude in the show. I compet-
    ed 24 times in the U.S. and Canada until some heart problems and age has slowed me to almost a stop. I won about a half the times, but truly I enjoyed even the one where I
    came in 7th. Just being there, competing against the temptations of slacking off and going
    down hill into the average slug-like American style of life; that was a no-lose formula for
    wonderful self-esteem (and then some sexy narcissism thrown in the pot also).

    Thanks for your on-line life narrative. I read every one of the episodes. [Paul]

    • tonycavanagh says:

      Oh Dear… I had forgotten temporarily about our amazing 79yo bodybuilding follower!! So sorry for that. Paul, you have the perfect set of reasons for doing what you do – wellbeing, fitness etc at a moderately unusual age… the anti-couch potato argument is a winner. So you and any others like you (can there be any?) are excused from my rant!!

      Moreover, we noticed in the gym yesterday that pretty much everyone, at every age, keeps wandering up to the mirrors and checking themselves out, whether wrestler, acrobat or whatever. So ‘narcissism rules OK!’.

      Keep up the good work, Paul. Send us a picture so we can all admire your results!!


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