We’re Dull. Hockney Says So…


“Gays are so dull these days”, according to David Hockney. Not flamboyant enough, apparently. Too willing to try to conform, to fit in…


…if you play ‘spot the gay’ in a group, you can’t tell which ones they are…


Hmmm. Well, none of us has ever been of the flamboyant persuasion, that’s for sure! No ‘pride’ marches, no leather, and no ‘queens’ in our circles. I said it recently – for us, being gay IS normal. I don’t think it helps our ’cause’ at all – if there needs to be a ’cause’ – to be out there making some sort of fuss. We admire other guys, that’s all – no-one has to pretend to be a ‘wife’ or any such nonsense. We may be seen doing this


…but with all of us it would be on equally ‘masculine’ terms. Some gay couples, when it comes to sex, favour a particular way around in terms of roles played: others go for it every which way! But why should we need to draw attention to ourselves beyond what straight couples do?

Hockney has it wrong. But then he likes publicity – in newspapers on both sides of the Atlantic this weekend – he likes being ‘seen’, and being ‘seen to be gay’. OK, we like to be seen in the sense that we are performers but, since some early and ill-advised ventures with certain videos (!) [see Loving the Boy and The Power of Love], not as ‘gay’ performers.

one arm

Is one of these ‘more gay’ than the other?…

…acrobatics at the school display…


…or in ballet…


Many would answer that question as ‘ballet’ – because it is seen as ‘more girlie’. Rubbish. If they knew how hard the training is to do what skilled dancers do…


…yes, even the pole dancers…

..and some exploit it – I have in mind ‘The Ladyboys of Bangkok’ who tour the world doing ‘their’ thing…

Oh, stop, Tone! OK. Just wanted to say it is not our wish, nor our role as gay guys, to go around pointing that out. Hockney – go do your own thing, if you want: leave us out!

Let’s just appeal to all red-blooded males intent on their own fitness…


Got it? This guy has:


And this:


It’s the key to all that clever ‘acro’ stuff: strength and flexibility!


I’ve got the oddest feeling that that guy has been photoshopped – but I’ll leave him in…



It’s true for any sport – swimming, for example:


And good comrades (gay or straight) make it much more fun…



gym boys

So, as David Hockney might (not) say – just get out there and get stuck in!

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7




About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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1 Response to We’re Dull. Hockney Says So…

  1. Pingback: Blending In… ‘Dull and Duller’ | Tony Cavanagh

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