Blending In… ‘Dull and Duller’

Tomorrow (Sunday) is International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia. And what will I and my gay partner and friends be doing? Nothing. Keeping a low profile.

1507057_1394932084093463_642643132_nNot for us the ‘statement’ of parading around in our underpants bearing ‘gay pride’ colours – we just feel that is pushing homosexuality down people’s throats and giving precisely the wrong impression. If homosexuality is ‘normal’ (and for we 7% it is) then surely we should act ‘normally’?? That picture on the left, by the way, I picked of a new Facebook friend’s site, and it might be him on the right – in which case, no offence intended, but your point of view is just different from mine! I just can’t see that sort of thing creating the right impression here in small-town Tennessee!tumblr_nmkpo7f1To1qdgdbio1_1280

Nor can we entirely approve of the picture on the right, although it’s fun! Especially as Ryan, son of a former reformed homophobe and now one of my son’s best mates, sounded his mum out this week about the possibility of dying his hair lime green: ‘Leo and Chris could do it too, since we’re all in the fitness team…’ No they bloody won’t, at least not Leo, and I can’t see Chris’s parents entirely approving either!! (Although it could look good for the circus tour which starts next month, Chris is in that, but Ryan isn’t… no, let’s not even go there!!).

I’mpic from ian sorry if other gay readers feel that we are ‘letting the side down’, but there it is. If homosexuality is normal to us – and I’ve said many times that it is – then we just want to lead normal and (relatively) inconspicuous lives: I say ‘relatively’ since we are in the acrobatic entertainment business, which probably isn’t everyone’s idea of “normal”!

Gosh, that was my first ‘tweet’, courtesy of another follower. I don’t do Twitter, either. Not the least bit interested in posting what I had for breakfast, or my thoughts on what the worst politicians are doing, for the world to admire…

The first part...The second part...Cover 3 ThumbNot that I haven’t been “openly gay” in these three masterpieces! Very openly, in some respects. A lot about love, training, circus and misadventures in there to entertain you too. Just click on the covers…

So, maybe we’re letting the side down by not painting ourselves in gay colours. But we can celebrate the things we love – gay male bodies, male bonding, training, and performing. So let’s go!

now thats


Some ‘togetherness’ now:

share the sunbed






…oooh, performers! A little more showing off, then:



…and, of course, the ‘beef stewup’ that makes it all possible:

outdoor weights

…weights, mates, the great outdoors – yeah!

And you don’t have to be gay to enjoy that life…


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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3 Responses to Blending In… ‘Dull and Duller’

  1. Pingback: Under the Radar, or Over the Rainbow? | Tony Cavanagh

  2. Eric says:

    I wanna blend in with some of these dudes… 🙂

    • tonycavanagh says:

      Eric – your comment ended up in spam for some reason and I confess that I accidently deleted your second comment before I realised that wasn’t spam either. Dare I ask you to post it again?

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