Leaving Ryan Behind (Again)


My son Leo’s friend Ryan is feeling ‘short-changed’ again. Not only did he not make it with us on the circus tour (he’s not good enough yet and anyway it was meant to be family kids only until Leo’s other friend Chris muscled in!)… he didn’t get on the UK gathering of the transatlantic fit kid freaks either (no passport, and his family a bit short of cash I think).

However, he is spending his summer vacation being ruthlessly (brutally?) trained by Dave’s brother Pete and his partner Ivo – one huge step for a lad who was once banned from associating with Leo because I (his dad) was gay. Ryan’s dad – eventually – saw the light!

To my eye, and with our brief week at home to observe him, he’s becoming a major powerhouse! A bit weak on the acrobatics as yet, but my goodness…

Meanwhile, we’re in Oxford UK and totally confused by the 5-hour timeshift. Bedtime now and we’re all wide awake having been sleep most of the afternoon. We’ll get there. So some traditional posts from me, to pass the time (for us all!)…



The first part...The second part...


Cover 3 Thumb


Doesn’t matter whether it’s the tough ‘iron cross’ on the rings or a simple headstand – enjoy!


Show us what you’ve got!

squeeze em




0512 (2)




About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.