Introducing ‘Xem’ at The University of Tennessee


Relationships. Gender equality. Gender uncertainty. I wrote quite recently about the high number of young people who admitted in a survey (in the UK) to a degree of uncertainty about their sexual preferences… ‘The Inbetweeners’. Hot on its heels comes some news from The University of Tennessee which you really couldn’t make up if you tried. PC gone nuts…

According to Donna Braquet, director of the University’s ‘Pride Centre’, ‘he’ or ‘she’ may prefer to be thought of as ‘non-binary’ – as she (?) puts it, ‘neither male nor female’. and wish to ‘cast off the heavy burden of traditional labels’..instead of ‘she/her/hers’ or ‘he/him/his’, students and staff are therefore invited to refer to new students as ‘ze/zir/zirs’ or, in the plural, ‘xe/xem/xir’.

I’m rather delighted to report that one of our State Congressmen has commented “We have paid people a lot of money to sit around and come up with this nonsense. It makes me kind of mad.”

This woman (I assume that Donna is a ‘ze’) is just down the road from us, in Knoxville! Arrrgh! “Big Orange, Big Ideas” is the motto. Daft ideas, if you ask me.

It makes me kind of laugh, to be honest, and puts me in mind of another little story about ‘the use of English’…


The first part...The second part...Cover 3 ThumbBetter keep quiet about my roots, then, or I’ll get sent home. Here’s a little unsubtle reminder about my use of English, and then we’ll move on to the customary pictures of young men who’ve been putting in the effort to get fit!







blond muscle




A well-lit sultry sheen on a chiselled body, to finish for today:

sultry sheen


About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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