Some turn one way, some the other…

A number of readers have asked me how the openly gay Canadian 14yo that has just arrived at my son’s school is doing. Or ‘coping’, as some have put it, in an essentially gay-hostile town. Well, for a start, the school is not gay-hostile and has a LGTB society. Essentially, half of his new colleagues tend to shun his company and the other half couldn’t care less. Leo (my son) tells me that it is most obvious in the locker room for sports: some guys – probably only about a tenth of them – actively try to go as far away from him as possible. But one thing which ‘sways’ the ‘don’t knows’ is his powerful sporty build, which they admire and, in some cases aspire to. For he’s been doing weights for several years and has banded up with the local enthusiasts – my son and his mates.

curly bar

A few of the less sporty types admire his openness and kind of admire him for that so, by and large, he’s doing all right. Despite being a gay dad myself, I did worry that anyone associating with him in this somewhat homophobic region might themselves become ‘targets’ for abuse of some kind (obviously worrying about Leo et al), but it hasn’t happened. Even the formerly seriously homophobic father of Leo’s friend Ryan seemed cheerful enough when their paths crossed at our place one morning – Jude (the new guy) has obviously gravitated to the morning gathering of the workout freaks! f79212432091907And Chad, owner of our excellent private gym, has invited him to take part in the carefully regulated after-school sessions on the resistance machines that the rest go to – the main step towards full membership when he’s older.

Jude has very supportive parents and Jude himself has assured me that he doesn’t have designs on any of the other lads! In fact, he talks openly about being too young for ‘the rest of the gay stuff’ but knowing that he has no interest in girls and enjoys seeing great male physiques being created. So he is integrating well as far as we are concerned, and we are introducing him to the art of being a base for acrobatics – he has already managed to support Leo in a one-arm balance on his head for a few seconds.


Flexible he is NOT!…


…there’s a LOT of work to be done before he could do any of THAT! Even assuming that he wanted to, of course – he’s much more a ‘feats of strength’ guy if it comes to showing off…

dead lift

The first part...The second part...Cover 3 ThumbMuch more on how we became gay fitness dudes can be found here. All three books are available for electronic devices as well as in actual print.

And so, for all like-minded readers, the customary fitness pictures follow:

dumbbell dude 2

gym corner






sun lounge!




About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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