Bedtime Rituals


1200627-MasterFile-238429-Largest_20-09-2015Sweet, huh! Well, coming from Bel Ami, it should be…

My analyst (Dave!) informs me that I have adapted some strange rituals in bed, if left to my own devices. I hadn’t realised it, but of course he is right. In our own bed, we have adopted personal ‘sides’, as most couples do. Mine is on the left, viewed from above with the pillows at the top. But in any other bed, even if alone, I will always go to that side. When I climb in, I always face the edge of the bed, hunching up into the foetal position with right hand under the pillow. After a short while, I straighten out both legs and then turn to face the opposite way, but not by rolling over. No, I, weirdly, twist under, face to the pillow. My right leg is bent, the left is straight, and the right hand remains under the pillow. I’m pretty much face down, head turned to my right, where Dave will be. And then I slide my left arm right under my chest, lifting the hand to touch his own right side just above the hip – for he will almost always be facing away from me at the time. Which means, I guess, that he has his rituals too. I need to analyse him. Later.

But you don’t need this information. Let’s play the pictures game instead.


bicep pull-ups










Christmas List Hints

Loving the Boy: ISBN 978-1-907732-30-0

The Power of Love: ISBN 978-1-907732-41-6

Against All Odds: ISBN 978-1-908645-35-7

As for all this bedtime stuff – nothing to get your knickers in a twist about!


Sleep tight!



About tonycavanagh

Born Northampton UK; school Oxford UK and Oak Ridge Tennessee, where I met my wonderful partner Dave, also from UK. Oak Ridge is our main training base for acrobatics and circus stuff, but we also established a base in Wales (UK) to serve us when we are working in Europe. Our 'story', of finding gay love, learning the acrobatics trade and then of how we got shot at during our show (and worse was to follow - just to prove that the risks of being an acrobat are not always the most obvious ones!) are now available in my three books 'Loving the Boy', 'The Power of Love' and 'Against All Odds'. Links available on most blog posts. Actually, waiting for the imminent arrival of the first printed copies was far scarier than anything we do in performance. A fourth book - not about us but exploring the sadness of a gay Native American boy denied his true identity - is currently with an agent for evaluation. watch for 'Let The Future Find Me' in due time. And now to book five... another boy, another quest... seems its always boys...
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