Over the time that my books have been out there, and over the time of this blog, I have received quite a few questions – many of which can be answered by the simple (but profoundly unhelpful!) phrase “Because we just do!” (or “Because I just do!”). I thought it might be amusing (to me anyway) to relate some of them here, perhaps with a bit of additional (and perhaps unnecessary) explanation.
Let’s start with the question which could be put to all readers of this blog. “Why do you like looking at pictures of fit and well-built young guys…? (Today’s Gallery Theme):
Do you need an answer? Choose from all or any combination of “We admire them and try to be like them,” “We’re gay, so what do you expect – girls?” – “They illustrate what we encourage everyone to try for,” “Sport is good for you – look at the results…”
OK. Let’s dig a little deeper. “Why do you love another man and not a woman?’ Just saying the ‘gay’ word is perhaps not sufficient an answer here, but I am what I am and I like what I like. Hard to add to that…
..except to mumble something about the wiring in my brain being how it is. Some have said ‘Was it a choice?’ and that’s a fair question, to which I think that the answer is “No.”
“Why do you [and your partner] share your (physical and mental) love with eight other guys?” That’s an interesting question, and defines a very special bond between the eight of us (there was, once, a ninth, but he found monogamous love with another great guy and went to Florida). The bond is fundamentally acrobatics and fitness, and was not my idea but Zach’s, who had suffered losses of several friends in CA to AIDs and was determined that his new friends in TN should not suffer the same fate, but equally should share the joy of gay adventures. So he made the suggestion that we could be an intimate but closed group (initially four), and we have all stayed true to the vital requirement – no full-on sex, protected or not, with anyone outside the group.
“What’s so great about going shirtless and barefoot whenever you can?” Not about showing off, although we are proud of the results of our intensive weight and flexibility training (which we need as acrobats): in the essentially favourable climate here in TN we love the sun on our backs and the wind on our chest – and being naturally tanned (apart from boosting our Vitamin D) saves us needing to use make up in performances (where going topless and barefoot is almost essentially to avoid overheating and to give good contact between the performers for balancing and so forth).
“Why do you enjoy training naked?” ‘Gymnastics’ literally means ‘The Naked Art’, but perhaps that is not a good enough answer. We’re going to be raising a sweat, and wet sweaty clothes cling. As for the last mile (undershorts coming off!) I don’t really have a sensible answer and, indeed, there is an argument against it in a shared gym in regard to potential hygiene issues on the benches and seated resistance machines (although everyone is mandated to shower and clean up before training…). But that is how it always has been in Chad’s private facilities and in our own cabin, and we don’t really think twice about it. Of course, when training is followed by wrestling (for fun)), getting up close, skin against skin, with another fit, muscular guy is (for the reasons stated earlier) a rather pleasant experience…
“You go on all the time about having a special affection for Dave’s feet!” OK, true. Is that a question? I don’t have an answer to that, except that I do seem to have a minor fetish for any clean feet, and Dave’s are perfect… those sweet-smelling soles against my face as I wake, his arm snaking around me before he tries to get a little bit more intimate… and, of course, since in our acrobatic routines we are all climbing on one another barefoot, “hygiene rules OK!” so we don’t really have anything against bare feet either.
“Do all gay men like to put another man’s penis in their mouths?” Actually, not sure I need to answer that except to say that most do indeed like to do that, as a way of exciting their partner in preparation for the next stages of gay sex. A related question perhaps is “Do you like licking your partners?” That’s come up several times, and I confess to snaking my tongue out if I’m up against a strong and sweating colleague – that salty manliness makes us feel like a special bonding and perhaps we’re feeling that we’re sharing our muscle power in some very close way… dunno exactly. Perhaps the sub-text here is just “We’re weird.” In many gay encounters, men are drawn to armpits and that rather ‘manly’ scent therein – being accepted in this quasi-intimate way is a part (for me) of knowing I am fit to be accepted by other males, which has always struck me as a closer bond (and one harder to make) than being attractive to a female (which is just the law of the jungle)…
I think that’s enough questions for one post, except perhaps to stay that if you do have questions, you can post comments or mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I pause here to identify the books that I mentioned (you can click on the covers for more information and check out e-version too from the usual outlets)… then we’ll move on to more great-looking guys, starting with another armpit…
So – any questions/comments on this selection?
Don’t be afraid to ask! One final pic then – Asian perfection on a London rooftop!